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This test consists of 5 multiple choice questions, 5 short answer questions, and 10 short essay questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. Who do children need to value in their lives?
(a) Their friends.
(b) Themselves.
(c) Their siblings.
(d) Their parents.

2. Future affairs will not be likely to occur if which action is taken?
(a) The underlying causes are examined and corrected.
(b) The unfaithful partner changes careers.
(c) The hurt partner works to regain self-esteem.
(d) The reasons for the affair are discussed with the lover.

3. What does the first part of chapter six focus on?
(a) How to control the unfaithful partner.
(b) Reasons why a partner is untrustworthy.
(c) Overcoming resistance to change.
(d) Methods to change behavior.

4. Children who did not express themselves growing up were often treated in which way by their parents?
(a) Told to go to their room.
(b) Told to sit down.
(c) Told to be quiet.
(d) Told to behave.

5. How does the book describe the process of changing behavior?
(a) Necessary.
(b) Unavoidable.
(c) Uncomfortable.
(d) Integral.

Short Answer Questions

1. Why do some partners mistakenly believe that verbal abuse must be accepted?

2. If the listener repeats the ideas back to the speaker, they are using which technique?

3. If the unfaithful partner is not interested in sex, the hurt partner may assume which possibility?

4. A list is provided in Chapter 8 to help people understand the common areas of shame associated with which of the following?

5. How should behaviors that detract from trust be addressed?

Short Essay Questions

1. What experience can influence an individual's ability to engage in intimate talk and intimate listening?

2. If an individual is working to forgive, how can they address the negative behaviors of their partner?

3. Why do people typically exhibit behaviors in their comfort zone?

4. What action must the unfaithful partner take for intimate talk to be successful?

5. Do men and women typically differ in their abilities to engage in intimate talk and intimate listening?

6. As discussed in Chapter 9, why are there hazards associated with forgiveness?

7. What is the 'flip-flop' factor described in Chapter 5?

8. How can an affair positively affect a marriage?

9. What is a schema?

10. How does the author describe forgiveness in Chapter 9?

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