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This test consists of 5 multiple choice questions, 5 short answer questions, and 10 short essay questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. Partners may feel that it is unacceptable to take which action?
(a) Ask directly for love.
(b) Discuss the affair openly.
(c) Force their partner to change.
(d) Demand the lover is banished.

2. The responsibility for the shortcomings in a marriage belongs to whom?
(a) Both partners.
(b) The unfaithful partner.
(c) The lover.
(d) The hurt partner.

3. Intimate listening can be described as which skill?
(a) Hearing what your partner is trying to tell you.
(b) Accepting what your partner is explaining.
(c) Agreeing with what your partner is saying.
(d) Understanding what your partner is experiencing.

4. Negative feelings are not implied during forgiveness to have which outcome?
(a) Be accepted by both partners.
(b) Be justified the unfaithful partner.
(c) Be forgotten with the affair.
(d) Be replaced by positive feelings.

5. Many people erroneously feel that their partners should be able to sense which of the following?
(a) Their hurt.
(b) Their frustration.
(c) Their demands.
(d) Their needs.

Short Answer Questions

1. Which topic is often-overlooked in discussing extramarital affairs?

2. How should children connect with others?

3. Why do unfaithful partners feel pressure to perform sex at a high satisfactory level with their partner?

4. If a hurt partner remains committed to impossibly high standards, they most likely missed out on which childhood experience?

5. Why are many individuals prevented from forgiving?

Short Essay Questions

1. How can an affair positively affect a marriage?

2. What is the 'flip-flop' factor described in Chapter 5?

3. Why do people typically exhibit behaviors in their comfort zone?

4. If children do not feel safe and secure, what could happen during their marriage as adults?

5. How can trust in a relationship be restored?

6. What crucial skill is addressed in detail in Chapter 7?

7. Do men and women typically differ in their abilities to engage in intimate talk and intimate listening?

8. Why is intimate talk necessary to learn?

9. If an individual is working to forgive, how can they address the negative behaviors of their partner?

10. What are some assumptions an unfaithful partner could make about sexual intimacy?

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