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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. How should behaviors that detract from trust be addressed?
(a) They should be eliminated.
(b) They should be embraced.
(c) They should be ignored.
(d) They should be analyzed.

2. The author uses the term 'flip-flop' to describe which factor?
(a) Explaining the repeated return of the lover.
(b) Understanding why hurt partners decide to cheat.
(c) Redefining negative traits as positive.
(d) Viewing the damage as irreversible.

3. The genuine intention of an individual may be lost if the partner feels the behavior is only occurring for which reason?
(a) Because they were asked to change.
(b) Because they did not want to hurt the children.
(c) Because their marriage was damaged.
(d) Because the affair was ended.

4. Which topic is often-overlooked in discussing extramarital affairs?
(a) The marriage usually ends in divorce.
(b) The passion can be reignited in a marriage.
(c) The damage done by an affair is deep.
(d) The affair can lead to a stronger marriage.

5. Which is an assumption about sexual intimacy by many couples?
(a) It will decrease during the marriage.
(b) It would be more exciting with a lover.
(c) It should come easily and naturally.
(d) It could be regained in a relationship.

6. How do most unfaithful partners describe sex with their lover?
(a) Fulfilling or passionate.
(b) Dangerous or bold.
(c) Routine or bland.
(d) Awkward or unsatisfying.

7. Why do some individuals refuse to change?
(a) They are angry.
(b) They are depressed.
(c) They are lonely.
(d) They are sad.

8. Which term is used to describe the refusal of one partner to discuss the affair?
(a) Silence.
(b) Ignorance.
(c) Acceptance.
(d) Avoidance.

9. Post-affair testing for AIDS is described in which way?
(a) Necessary for both partners.
(b) Too emotional to be discussed.
(c) Important for the lover.
(d) Optional for the unfaithful partner.

10. For communication to occur in the marriage, what must happen with the lover?
(a) The unfaithful partner must end the relationship with the lover.
(b) The unfaithful partner mus understand their attraction to the lover.
(c) The hurt partner must accept the lover.
(d) The hurt partner must confront the lover.

11. A hurt partner may believe their unfaithful partner is intentionally trying to achieve which task instead of changing for good?
(a) Adultery.
(b) Cheat.
(c) Deception.
(d) Betrayal.

12. Who do children need to value in their lives?
(a) Their siblings.
(b) Their friends.
(c) Their parents.
(d) Themselves.

13. An individual could mistakenly assume that listening gives their partner freedom to act with which emotion?
(a) Rage.
(b) Blame.
(c) Fear.
(d) Jeaousy.

14. Some people refuse to acknowledge which action by their partner?
(a) Efforts made to discuss the betrayal.
(b) Recommitment to the marriage.
(c) Heartfelt apologies for the affair.
(d) Sincere progress towards change.

15. Children who did not express themselves growing up were often treated in which way by their parents?
(a) Told to sit down.
(b) Told to be quiet.
(c) Told to behave.
(d) Told to go to their room.

Short Answer Questions

1. Future affairs will not be likely to occur if which action is taken?

2. What does the first part of chapter six focus on?

3. When trust has been destroyed, which emotion is logically prevalent?

4. What will happen to conflict after forgiveness?

5. If the listener repeats the ideas back to the speaker, they are using which technique?

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