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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. Forgiveness should not be offered in which way?
(a) Openly and honestly.
(b) Tentatively and earnestly.
(c) Freely and unconditionally.
(d) Passionately and fully.

2. The author uses the term 'flip-flop' to describe which factor?
(a) Understanding why hurt partners decide to cheat.
(b) Viewing the damage as irreversible.
(c) Redefining negative traits as positive.
(d) Explaining the repeated return of the lover.

3. Couples often assume that sexual desire should be experienced in which way by each partner?
(a) With the same fantasies.
(b) With the same intensity.
(c) With the same duration.
(d) With the same frequency.

4. A graph is provided for couples to chart behaviors that can be preformed in which timeframe?
(a) Eventually.
(b) Exponentially.
(c) Immediately.
(d) Step-by-step.

5. If a hurt partner remains committed to impossibly high standards, they most likely missed out on which childhood experience?
(a) Bonding with their friends.
(b) Letting go and having fun.
(c) Exploring new relationships.
(d) Spending time with their parents.

6. Why do some individuals refuse to change?
(a) They are angry.
(b) They are lonely.
(c) They are depressed.
(d) They are sad.

7. After an emotional confrontation, how do women typically feel?
(a) More vulnerable to pain.
(b) More intimate with their partner.
(c) More accepting of the affair.
(d) More likely to forgive.

8. How do most unfaithful partners describe sex with their lover?
(a) Awkward or unsatisfying.
(b) Routine or bland.
(c) Fulfilling or passionate.
(d) Dangerous or bold.

9. Who do children need to value in their lives?
(a) Their siblings.
(b) Their parents.
(c) Their friends.
(d) Themselves.

10. According to Chapter 6, how can trust be restored in a person?
(a) Cutting off all communication to the lover.
(b) Changing personal behavior to display trustworthiness.
(c) Recommitting fully to the relationship.
(d) Addressing the root causes of the affair.

11. Destructive behaviors can be forgiven without which of the following?
(a) Understanding.
(b) Acknowledgment.
(c) Acceptance.
(d) Recommitment.

12. What is the process of assaulting a partner with verbal abuse?
(a) Rage.
(b) Anger.
(c) Fear.
(d) Storm.

13. How should children connect with others?
(a) Emotionally.
(b) Cognitively.
(c) Physically.
(d) Mentally.

14. An accident or illness are examples of which root cause of an affair?
(a) Childhood experiences.
(b) Critical life events.
(c) Fear of losing a partner.
(d) Unfair circumstances.

15. Developing realistic expectations of sex involves examining assumptions regarding which emotion?
(a) Passion.
(b) Desire.
(c) Lust.
(d) Love.

Short Answer Questions

1. Chapter 9 concludes with a document that is meant to help a couple in which way?

2. Avoiding change results from which type of block experienced by the person?

3. Intimate listening can be described as which skill?

4. When does the hurt partner mistakenly believe that the unfaithful partner must accomplish their personal change?

5. Many people erroneously feel that their partners should be able to sense which of the following?

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