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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. Children who did not express themselves growing up were often treated in which way by their parents?
(a) Told to be quiet.
(b) Told to go to their room.
(c) Told to sit down.
(d) Told to behave.

2. Forgiveness involves mental development and occurs in which timeframe?
(a) Immediately.
(b) Quickly.
(c) As time goes on.
(d) When the affair ends.

3. Women desire what type of support in communication?
(a) Emotional.
(b) Mental.
(c) Relational.
(d) Physical.

4. The responsibility for the shortcomings in a marriage belongs to whom?
(a) The unfaithful partner.
(b) The lover.
(c) The hurt partner.
(d) Both partners.

5. Some people refuse to acknowledge which action by their partner?
(a) Efforts made to discuss the betrayal.
(b) Recommitment to the marriage.
(c) Sincere progress towards change.
(d) Heartfelt apologies for the affair.

6. The author uses the term 'flip-flop' to describe which factor?
(a) Viewing the damage as irreversible.
(b) Redefining negative traits as positive.
(c) Explaining the repeated return of the lover.
(d) Understanding why hurt partners decide to cheat.

7. Couples often assume that sexual desire should be experienced in which way by each partner?
(a) With the same duration.
(b) With the same frequency.
(c) With the same intensity.
(d) With the same fantasies.

8. A graph is provided for couples to chart behaviors that can be preformed in which timeframe?
(a) Immediately.
(b) Step-by-step.
(c) Exponentially.
(d) Eventually.

9. A partner may refuse to discuss the affair because of which false assumption?
(a) It will cause deeper wounds in the relationship.
(b) It will not be taken seriously by the hurt partner.
(c) It will send the unfaithful partner back to the lover.
(d) It will bring additional pain into the marriage.

10. Chapter 9 concludes with a document that is meant to help a couple in which way?
(a) A physical agreement to record details of each conversation.
(b) A physical agreement to disclose all details about the lover.
(c) A physical agreement to forgive and forget the affair.
(d) A physical agreement to move forward in rebuilding the relationship.

11. Which term is used to describe the refusal of one partner to discuss the affair?
(a) Ignorance.
(b) Avoidance.
(c) Acceptance.
(d) Silence.

12. Why do some individuals refuse to change?
(a) They are angry.
(b) They are depressed.
(c) They are lonely.
(d) They are sad.

13. Post-affair testing for AIDS is described in which way?
(a) Important for the lover.
(b) Necessary for both partners.
(c) Optional for the unfaithful partner.
(d) Too emotional to be discussed.

14. How is masturbation viewed by the text?
(a) Indicative of marital stress.
(b) An individual preference.
(c) A normal behavior.
(d) A sign of dissatisfaction.

15. When trust has been destroyed, which emotion is logically prevalent?
(a) Fear.
(b) Guilt.
(c) Doubt.
(d) Anger.

Short Answer Questions

1. While attempting to empathize with their female partners, men often feel which emotion?

2. A list is provided in Chapter 8 to help people understand the common areas of shame associated with which of the following?

3. If sex with the lover was good, the unfaithful partner will assume any problems during sex with the hurt partner is the fault of whom?

4. Forgiveness should not be offered in which way?

5. Destructive behaviors can be forgiven without which of the following?

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