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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. A partner may refuse to discuss the affair because of which false assumption?
(a) It will cause deeper wounds in the relationship.
(b) It will send the unfaithful partner back to the lover.
(c) It will bring additional pain into the marriage.
(d) It will not be taken seriously by the hurt partner.

2. How does the book describe the process of changing behavior?
(a) Necessary.
(b) Unavoidable.
(c) Integral.
(d) Uncomfortable.

3. Intimate listening can be described as which skill?
(a) Accepting what your partner is explaining.
(b) Agreeing with what your partner is saying.
(c) Understanding what your partner is experiencing.
(d) Hearing what your partner is trying to tell you.

4. If forgiveness is offered too quickly, how can it affect the individual?
(a) It can affect their personal identity.
(b) It can trigger childhood memories.
(c) It can deepen the pain of the affair.
(d) It can damage their self-esteem.

5. How is masturbation viewed by the text?
(a) A sign of dissatisfaction.
(b) A normal behavior.
(c) An individual preference.
(d) Indicative of marital stress.

6. How should children connect with others?
(a) Mentally.
(b) Emotionally.
(c) Physically.
(d) Cognitively.

7. For whom must forgiveness occur?
(a) For themselves and the lover.
(b) For their parents and their partner.
(c) For the lover and their partner.
(d) For their partner and themselves.

8. If the listener repeats the ideas back to the speaker, they are using which technique?
(a) Crossover.
(b) Mirror.
(c) Intimacy.
(d) Equality.

9. Why do some partners mistakenly believe that verbal abuse must be accepted?
(a) It is how their parents treated them.
(b) It is justified after the affair.
(c) It is deserved by the unfaithful partner.
(d) It is part of their personality.

10. The majority of the blame for an affair belongs to whom?
(a) The hurt partner.
(b) The lover.
(c) Both partners.
(d) The unfaithful partner.

11. Adults who lack self-discipline often did not have which childhood experience?
(a) Consequences for their actions explained.
(b) Love from their parents shown.
(c) Realistic boundaries enforced.
(d) Freedom to explore new ideas granted.

12. Developing realistic expectations of sex involves examining assumptions regarding which emotion?
(a) Love.
(b) Passion.
(c) Desire.
(d) Lust.

13. While attempting to empathize with their female partners, men often feel which emotion?
(a) Foolish.
(b) Ignored.
(c) Needed.
(d) Strong.

14. If the unfaithful partner is not interested in sex, the hurt partner may assume which possibility?
(a) The affair is continuing.
(b) A change in sexual desires.
(c) A lack of sexual ability.
(d) Their marriage is over.

15. The genuine intention of an individual may be lost if the partner feels the behavior is only occurring for which reason?
(a) Because the affair was ended.
(b) Because their marriage was damaged.
(c) Because they did not want to hurt the children.
(d) Because they were asked to change.

Short Answer Questions

1. Chapter 9 concludes with a document that is meant to help a couple in which way?

2. Forgiveness can be described in which way?

3. Listening to complaints does not equate to which behavior?

4. A hurt partner may believe their unfaithful partner is intentionally trying to achieve which task instead of changing for good?

5. Why do some individuals refuse to change?

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