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This test consists of 5 multiple choice questions, 5 short answer questions, and 10 short essay questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. If a hurt partner attempts to win back the unfaithful partner, what is the psychological effect on the hurt partner?
(a) They are angry at the lover.
(b) They are devastated by the affair.
(c) They lose their sense of self-respect.
(d) They lose their will to try in the relationship.

2. What is the first step in post-affair healing?
(a) Discovering the identity of the lover.
(b) Managing emotions until feelings can normalize.
(c) Making an appointment to see a marriage counselor.
(d) Discussing the secret nature of the affair.

3. How many reasons does the book address that could explain a lack of guilt on the part of the unfaithful partner?
(a) Four.
(b) Three.
(c) Five.
(d) Two.

4. The stage of disenchantment in a relationship can be described with which term?
(a) Unexpected.
(b) Sudden.
(c) Unhealthy.
(d) Normal.

5. When hurt partners engage in obsession behaviors, how is this related to the discovery of the affair?
(a) The behaviors are attempts to remember life before the relationship.
(b) The behaviors are attempts to dull pain and reduce anxiety.
(c) The behaviors are attempts to get even with the lover.
(d) The behaviors are attempts to get the attention of the unfaithful partner.

Short Answer Questions

1. A formal announcement by the partners should be made at which stage?

2. After the affair is discovered, how does the unfaithful partner typically react to the repeated lying in which they had been engaging?

3. The basic premise of the book assumes the readers have made which decision about their relationship?

4. The overall length of the introduction can be described with which term?

5. A person contemplating an extramarital affair will most likely view this book in which way?

Short Essay Questions

1. Where do unrealistic expectations of love and marriage come from?

2. Why is it necessary for an affair to be understood?

3. What is the fundamental situation of any marriage post-affair which is addressed by Chapter 4?

4. How does the book address gender-typical reactions in Chapter 2?

5. What methods do unfaithful partners use to hide from deeper emotional issues that may be tied to the affair?

6. How does the book view unrequited and romantic love in terms of their role in a relationship?

7. How does the text address gender-typical reactions in Chapter 1?

8. How must the affair be analyzed in order to move forward in building trust in the relationship?

9. How is unrequited love described?

10. How does the presence of children in a marriage affect the unfaithful partner in regards to the affair?

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