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This test consists of 5 multiple choice questions, 5 short answer questions, and 10 short essay questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. A formal announcement by the partners should be made at which stage?
(a) After deciding to divorce.
(b) After learning about the affair.
(c) After working on the relationship for a period of time.
(d) After recommitting to the relationship.

2. Inadequacy in the relationship is felt by whom?
(a) Both male and female hurt partners.
(b) Male hurt partners.
(c) Neither of the hurt partners.
(d) Female hurt partners.

3. What is the first step in post-affair healing?
(a) Making an appointment to see a marriage counselor.
(b) Managing emotions until feelings can normalize.
(c) Discussing the secret nature of the affair.
(d) Discovering the identity of the lover.

4. How do women usually react to the discovery of an affair?
(a) They ignore the explanations of their partner.
(b) They attempt to keep their relationship going.
(c) They try to forget about the realities of the affair.
(d) They turn to girlfriends and family for support.

5. Who is the book's secondary audience?
(a) A therapist advising a patient on sexual expectations in a marriage.
(b) A child wanting to understand their parent's affair.
(c) A pastor counseling a couple prior to their wedding.
(d) A lover wanting to push their partner towards a marriage proposal.

Short Answer Questions

1. Using mental time projection will help the partners accomplish which task?

2. The unfaithful partner may experience physical changes from romantic love that can be expected to last how long?

3. Why is the personal identity of a hurt partner affected by an affair?

4. As relationships grow, they move into a stage of which type of love?

5. When the affair is discovered, what is the typical reaction of the unfaithful partner?

Short Essay Questions

1. What is the fundamental difference in reactions between the hurt and unfaithful partners to the discovery of an affair?

2. How is unrequited love described?

3. What does the author recommend the couple do after deciding to rebuild their marriage?

4. What steps does the author take to minimize emotionally-charged labels associated with the affair?

5. Where do unrealistic expectations of love and marriage come from?

6. Why is it necessary for an affair to be understood?

7. As discussed in Chapter 4, Is is possible to repair a marriage post-affair?

8. Why do hurt partners blame God for their suffering?

9. Who is the book's intended secondary audience?

10. What methods do unfaithful partners use to hide from deeper emotional issues that may be tied to the affair?

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