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This test consists of 5 multiple choice questions, 5 short answer questions, and 10 short essay questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. The bulk of the book is dedicated to which topic?
(a) Forgiving the unfaithful partner.
(b) Understanding childhood experiences.
(c) Accepting the lover as an equal.
(d) Healing after an affair.

2. Both partners should listen in which way?
(a) With concentration.
(b) Without judgment.
(c) With love.
(d) Without reacting.

3. After an affair, the marital relationship faces which two options?
(a) Dissolution or recommitment.
(b) Renogotiation or openness.
(c) Discussion or counseling.
(d) Termination or ignorance.

4. Relationships can be repaired if both partners react in which way?
(a) With willingness to work at the relationship.
(b) With desire to keep their family together at all costs.
(c) With acknowledgement of the level of damage from the affair.
(d) With acceptance and forgiveness for the affair.

5. If a hurt partner attempts to win back the unfaithful partner, what is the psychological effect on the hurt partner?
(a) They lose their will to try in the relationship.
(b) They are angry at the lover.
(c) They are devastated by the affair.
(d) They lose their sense of self-respect.

Short Answer Questions

1. Warning signs that the unfaithful partner is likely to pursue future affairs include which behavior?

2. Which term does the book use to describe the partner who is involved in the affair?

3. The negative reactions of friends and family can enhance which feeling for the unfaithful partner?

4. After the affair is discovered, how does the unfaithful partner typically react to the repeated lying in which they had been engaging?

5. If the unfaithful partner feels committed to the lover, how could this affect their feelings about the affair?

Short Essay Questions

1. How does the text address gender-typical reactions in Chapter 1?

2. How does the book address gender-typical reactions in Chapter 2?

3. Where do unrealistic expectations of love and marriage come from?

4. What is the role of mature love in a relationship?

5. What steps does the author take to minimize emotionally-charged labels associated with the affair?

6. Why do family members find it difficult to support a hurt partner during their time of crisis after the discovery of an affair?

7. How must the affair be analyzed in order to move forward in building trust in the relationship?

8. How does the book view unrequited and romantic love in terms of their role in a relationship?

9. How is the presence of violent thoughts in the hurt partner related to the discovery of the affair?

10. Why do couples often feel they are incompatible?

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