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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. The most fundamental situation faced by the partners in a marriage post-affair is which of the following?
(a) How to recommit to the marriage.
(b) How to forgive and forget.
(c) How to regain sexual intimacy.
(d) How to trust again.

2. Unrealistic expectations are often the result of which experiences?
(a) Unfulfilled dreams.
(b) Gender-based.
(c) Previous relationships.
(d) Childhood.

3. Who is the book's secondary audience?
(a) A child wanting to understand their parent's affair.
(b) A lover wanting to push their partner towards a marriage proposal.
(c) A pastor counseling a couple prior to their wedding.
(d) A therapist advising a patient on sexual expectations in a marriage.

4. Both partners should listen in which way?
(a) Without reacting.
(b) With concentration.
(c) Without judgment.
(d) With love.

5. An affair, as described by the book, may not always include which behavior?
(a) Sexual intercourse.
(b) Feelings of betrayal.
(c) Breach of trust.
(d) Keeping secrets.

6. How does chapter number 1 conclude?
(a) Explanation of psychological impacts on the hurt partner.
(b) Listing of behaviors to expect from hurt partners in the future.
(c) Discussion of gender-typical reactions of hurt partners.
(d) Comparison of hurt and unfaithful partner rationalizations.

7. Most relationships begin with which emotion?
(a) Uncontrollable desire.
(b) Deep friendship.
(c) Passionate lust.
(d) Romantic love.

8. Using mental time projection will help the partners accomplish which task?
(a) Let go of past infidelities.
(b) Rekindle their sexual intimacy.
(c) Forgive the unfaithful partner.
(d) Focus on the rebuilding process.

9. How does the unfaithful partner feel about moving forward in marriage relationship?
(a) They are ready.
(b) They need time.
(c) They are unsure.
(d) They withdraw.

10. Inadequacy in the relationship is felt by whom?
(a) Both male and female hurt partners.
(b) Female hurt partners.
(c) Neither of the hurt partners.
(d) Male hurt partners.

11. Who is the book's primary audience?
(a) An unfaithful partner who is unsure about the status of their marriage.
(b) A couple who want to rebuild their relationship after an affair.
(c) A hurt partner who wants to get even with the unfaithful partner.
(d) A lover who wants to beging a new relationship outside the affair.

12. The feeling of romantic love can lead the unfaithful partner to take which action?
(a) Decide not to disclose the affair.
(b) Continue the affair after recommiting to the partner.
(c) Choose the lover over the hurt partner.
(d) Begin a new affair with another lover.

13. Although many hurt partners feel that 'good things happen to good people,' how does the discovery of the affair affect this sentiment?
(a) They must abandon their common, fundamental beliefs.
(b) They hold tightly to the idea that good things will come their way.
(c) They believe they did something wrong to bring on the affair.
(d) They become aware their partner is not a good person.

14. Connecting with friends and family in the wake of an affair is perceived how by the hurt partner?
(a) Tenuous and slow.
(b) Instant and deep.
(c) Difficult and painful.
(d) Easy and necessary.

15. The book presents a bulleted list of which type of expectations of love and marriage?
(a) Unrealistic.
(b) Dangerous.
(c) Common.
(d) Accepted.

Short Answer Questions

1. How many psychological reactions, which can be experienced by the unfaithful partner after the discovery of the affair, does the book address?

2. Which term does the book use to describe the partner who is involved in the affair?

3. Negative and destructive thoughts are linked to which psychological effect suffered by the hurt partner?

4. Why is the personal identity of a hurt partner affected by an affair?

5. After an affair is discovered, how is the personal identity of hurt partner affected?

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