View a FREE sample

This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. The negative reactions of friends and family can enhance which feeling for the unfaithful partner?
(a) Self-disgust.
(b) Anger.
(c) Jealousy.
(d) Shame.

2. After an affair is discovered, how is the personal identity of hurt partner affected?
(a) It is recreated.
(b) It is improved.
(c) It is lost.
(d) It is stabilized.

3. The basic premise of the book assumes the readers have made which decision about their relationship?
(a) To avoid affairs in the future.
(b) To make a public relationship with the lover.
(c) To analyze the benefits of staying in the relationship.
(d) To remain committed to the marriage.

4. If a couple does not adequately communicate their desires and needs, they may begin to view each other in which way?
(a) Unsupportive.
(b) Dissimilar.
(c) Judgmental.
(d) Detached.

5. If an affair is not completely understood, the unfaithful partner may react in which way?
(a) They may not abandon their lover.
(b) They may have another affair.
(c) They may leave the hurt partner.
(d) They may disengage from the marriage.

6. Unrealistic expectations are often the result of which experiences?
(a) Childhood.
(b) Gender-based.
(c) Previous relationships.
(d) Unfulfilled dreams.

7. How does the unfaithful partner feel about moving forward in marriage relationship?
(a) They are unsure.
(b) They withdraw.
(c) They are ready.
(d) They need time.

8. How do women usually react to the discovery of an affair?
(a) They attempt to keep their relationship going.
(b) They ignore the explanations of their partner.
(c) They try to forget about the realities of the affair.
(d) They turn to girlfriends and family for support.

9. Who is the book's secondary audience?
(a) A lover wanting to push their partner towards a marriage proposal.
(b) A therapist advising a patient on sexual expectations in a marriage.
(c) A child wanting to understand their parent's affair.
(d) A pastor counseling a couple prior to their wedding.

10. What is the first step in post-affair healing?
(a) Managing emotions until feelings can normalize.
(b) Making an appointment to see a marriage counselor.
(c) Discovering the identity of the lover.
(d) Discussing the secret nature of the affair.

11. The signs of an affair are often treated in which way by the hurt partner?
(a) They are confronted.
(b) They are accepted.
(c) They are ignored.
(d) They are explained away.

12. While hurt female partners typically become depressed, how do male hurt partners typically react?
(a) They become angry.
(b) They become fearful.
(c) They become lonely.
(d) They become sad.

13. When working through an affair, the majority of the typical concerns are experienced by whom?
(a) Both partners.
(b) The hurt partner.
(c) The lover.
(d) The unfaithful partner.

14. Why does the author deliberately chose particular words and phrases to use in the book?
(a) To avoid emotionally charged labels.
(b) To eliminate stereotypes about infidelity.
(c) To create a new language for the partners.
(d) To help the couple speak openly about their problems.

15. How many reasons does the book address that could explain a lack of guilt on the part of the unfaithful partner?
(a) Five.
(b) Three.
(c) Four.
(d) Two.

Short Answer Questions

1. Why would the hurt partner feel as if they are disposable?

2. The bulk of the book is dedicated to which topic?

3. When hurt partners engage in obsession behaviors, how is this related to the discovery of the affair?

4. Negative and destructive thoughts are linked to which psychological effect suffered by the hurt partner?

5. Which term does the book use to describe the partner who is involved in the affair?

(see the answer keys)

This section contains 639 words (approx. 3 pages at 300 words per page) View a FREE sample