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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. After an affair, the marital relationship faces which two options?
(a) Dissolution or recommitment.
(b) Discussion or counseling.
(c) Termination or ignorance.
(d) Renogotiation or openness.

2. Most relationships begin with which emotion?
(a) Deep friendship.
(b) Passionate lust.
(c) Uncontrollable desire.
(d) Romantic love.

3. Inadequacy in the relationship is felt by whom?
(a) Neither of the hurt partners.
(b) Male hurt partners.
(c) Both male and female hurt partners.
(d) Female hurt partners.

4. What must occur with the deeper issues felt by the unfaithful partner?
(a) They should be ignored.
(b) They must be addressed.
(c) They can be resolved.
(d) They need time to sort out.

5. Why does an affair need to be understood?
(a) The lover may not leave the relationship.
(b) It could be the end of the relationship.
(c) The hurt partner may never forget.
(d) It may affect the children too deeply.

6. Although many hurt partners feel that 'good things happen to good people,' how does the discovery of the affair affect this sentiment?
(a) They hold tightly to the idea that good things will come their way.
(b) They become aware their partner is not a good person.
(c) They believe they did something wrong to bring on the affair.
(d) They must abandon their common, fundamental beliefs.

7. One partner may assume that the relationship is in which state?
(a) Deeply flawed and dysfunctional.
(b) Stale and unable to move forward.
(c) Damaged beyond repair.
(d) Unrecognizable from its origins.

8. When friends and family withdraw from the unfaithful partner, who can provide a temporary substitute?
(a) The lover.
(b) Professional therapists.
(c) Religous leaders.
(d) Work colleagues.

9. After considering the economic impacts of divorce, a couple may come to understand which reality about their relationship?
(a) The need to provide for their children.
(b) The financial burden of the affair.
(c) The rationale for remaining in the relationship.
(d) The reasoning behind their financial arguments.

10. All extramarital affairs are viewed in which way by the text?
(a) Excusable.
(b) Unforgivable.
(c) Damaging.
(d) Inevitable.

11. If the hurt partner chooses to remain with the unfaithful partner even though the relationship is dysfunctional, which term described this type of love?
(a) Unjustified.
(b) Unforgiveable.
(c) Unrequited.
(d) Unbelievable.

12. The person involved in the relationship, but who is not one of the married partners, is termed which of the following?
(a) Lover.
(b) Hurt.
(c) Betrayer.
(d) Victimizer.

13. Relationships can be repaired if both partners react in which way?
(a) With desire to keep their family together at all costs.
(b) With willingness to work at the relationship.
(c) With acknowledgement of the level of damage from the affair.
(d) With acceptance and forgiveness for the affair.

14. A person contemplating an extramarital affair will most likely view this book in which way?
(a) Judgmental and tedious.
(b) Insulting and wrong.
(c) Long and not applicable.
(d) Helpful and enlightening.

15. Who is the book's secondary audience?
(a) A therapist advising a patient on sexual expectations in a marriage.
(b) A pastor counseling a couple prior to their wedding.
(c) A lover wanting to push their partner towards a marriage proposal.
(d) A child wanting to understand their parent's affair.

Short Answer Questions

1. Using mental time projection will help the partners accomplish which task?

2. Basic goals and new boundaries should be decided on by whom?

3. The unfaithful partner often wants to reconnect in their marriage in order to stop feeling which emotion?

4. If an affair is not completely understood, the unfaithful partner may react in which way?

5. When some hurt partners discover the affair, they feel an emotional toll equal or greater to which event?

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