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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. When the affair is discovered, what is the typical reaction of the unfaithful partner?
(a) Anger and jealousy.
(b) Emotional relief.
(c) Disappointment.
(d) Fear and loathing.

2. For trust to be regained in a relationship, what must happen?
(a) The hurt partner must have an affair as well.
(b) The root causes of the affair must be eliminated.
(c) The lover must be involved in couples counseling.
(d) The affair must be analyzed from all angles.

3. The basic premise of the book assumes the readers have made which decision about their relationship?
(a) To analyze the benefits of staying in the relationship.
(b) To avoid affairs in the future.
(c) To remain committed to the marriage.
(d) To make a public relationship with the lover.

4. After considering the economic impacts of divorce, a couple may come to understand which reality about their relationship?
(a) The financial burden of the affair.
(b) The need to provide for their children.
(c) The rationale for remaining in the relationship.
(d) The reasoning behind their financial arguments.

5. The signs of an affair are often treated in which way by the hurt partner?
(a) They are confronted.
(b) They are accepted.
(c) They are explained away.
(d) They are ignored.

6. After the affair is discovered, how does the unfaithful partner typically react to the repeated lying in which they had been engaging?
(a) They teach their children how to lie.
(b) They enjoy the thrill of lying.
(c) They invent new ways to lie.
(d) They grow tired of lying.

7. How do children typically respond to the unfaithful partner?
(a) With anger.
(b) With fear.
(c) With compassion.
(d) With acceptance.

8. An affair, as described by the book, may not always include which behavior?
(a) Sexual intercourse.
(b) Feelings of betrayal.
(c) Breach of trust.
(d) Keeping secrets.

9. If a couple does not adequately communicate their desires and needs, they may begin to view each other in which way?
(a) Judgmental.
(b) Detached.
(c) Unsupportive.
(d) Dissimilar.

10. Relationships can be repaired if both partners react in which way?
(a) With acceptance and forgiveness for the affair.
(b) With desire to keep their family together at all costs.
(c) With acknowledgement of the level of damage from the affair.
(d) With willingness to work at the relationship.

11. What is the first step in post-affair healing?
(a) Discovering the identity of the lover.
(b) Discussing the secret nature of the affair.
(c) Making an appointment to see a marriage counselor.
(d) Managing emotions until feelings can normalize.

12. When the relationship with the lover is ended by the unfaithful partner, which emotion typically follows?
(a) Despair.
(b) Loneliness.
(c) Grief.
(d) Anxiousness.

13. If the expectations of love and marriage are not modified, they can lead to which type of relationship?
(a) Loveless.
(b) Dysfunctional.
(c) Unfaithful.
(d) Abusive.

14. Which idea is unlikely about the couple working through an extramarital affair?
(a) They are stronger.
(b) They are committed.
(c) They are incompatible.
(d) They are dysfunctional.

15. Unrealistic expectations are often the result of which experiences?
(a) Previous relationships.
(b) Unfulfilled dreams.
(c) Childhood.
(d) Gender-based.

Short Answer Questions

1. What is the second phase of post-affair healing?

2. If an affair is not completely understood, the unfaithful partner may react in which way?

3. The intense attachment a hurt partner may feel towards the unfaithful partner could override which of the following?

4. A loss of sense of purpose can lead to which outcome for the hurt partner?

5. Warning signs that the unfaithful partner is likely to pursue future affairs include which behavior?

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