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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. While hurt female partners typically become depressed, how do male hurt partners typically react?
(a) They become lonely.
(b) They become fearful.
(c) They become sad.
(d) They become angry.

2. Men distract themselves with external events when dealing with an unfaithful partner while women react in which way?
(a) Confront the lover.
(b) Plan a retreat to discuss the affair.
(c) Obsess over the relationship.
(d) Disengage from the marriage.

3. All extramarital affairs are viewed in which way by the text?
(a) Excusable.
(b) Inevitable.
(c) Damaging.
(d) Unforgivable.

4. What is the main purpose of the book?
(a) To help a couple survive an affair.
(b) To instruct a couple on how to stay married.
(c) To guide a couple through a divorce.
(d) To advise a couple on how to regain sexual intimacy.

5. How many reasons does the book address that could explain a lack of guilt on the part of the unfaithful partner?
(a) Three.
(b) Four.
(c) Two.
(d) Five.

6. According to Chapter 3, how should irrational or erroneous thoughts should be treated?
(a) Reconsidered.
(b) Trusted.
(c) Abadoned.
(d) Ignored.

7. Why would the hurt partner feel as if they are disposable?
(a) They lose the sense of being special.
(b) They compare themselves to the lover.
(c) They regret the time lost with their partner.
(d) They cannot accurately express their emotions.

8. How do women usually react to the discovery of an affair?
(a) They ignore the explanations of their partner.
(b) They try to forget about the realities of the affair.
(c) They turn to girlfriends and family for support.
(d) They attempt to keep their relationship going.

9. Inadequacy in the relationship is felt by whom?
(a) Male hurt partners.
(b) Neither of the hurt partners.
(c) Both male and female hurt partners.
(d) Female hurt partners.

10. A loss of sense of purpose can lead to which outcome for the hurt partner?
(a) Suicidal thoughts.
(b) Taking the children.
(c) Wanting a divorce.
(d) Withdrawing sexually.

11. Although many hurt partners feel that 'good things happen to good people,' how does the discovery of the affair affect this sentiment?
(a) They hold tightly to the idea that good things will come their way.
(b) They believe they did something wrong to bring on the affair.
(c) They must abandon their common, fundamental beliefs.
(d) They become aware their partner is not a good person.

12. The intense attachment a hurt partner may feel towards the unfaithful partner could override which of the following?
(a) Irrationality.
(b) Reason.
(c) Normalcy.
(d) Consequences.

13. When friends and family withdraw from the unfaithful partner, who can provide a temporary substitute?
(a) Religous leaders.
(b) Work colleagues.
(c) The lover.
(d) Professional therapists.

14. How many psychological reactions, which can be experienced by the unfaithful partner after the discovery of the affair, does the book address?
(a) Six.
(b) Twelve.
(c) Ten.
(d) Eight.

15. If the unfaithful partner feels committed to the lover, how could this affect their feelings about the affair?
(a) They may not want to reconnect.
(b) They may not feel guilty.
(c) They may feel distracted.
(d) They may be angry.

Short Answer Questions

1. If the hurt partner chooses to remain with the unfaithful partner even though the relationship is dysfunctional, which term described this type of love?

2. When the affair is discovered, what is the typical reaction of the unfaithful partner?

3. Using mental time projection will help the partners accomplish which task?

4. If a couple does not adequately communicate their desires and needs, they may begin to view each other in which way?

5. The book urges readers to take an inventory of which aspect of their lives?

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