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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. The euphoria felt from the affair can be attributed to which reality?
(a) Chemical changes in the brain.
(b) Acceptance for personal shortcomings.
(c) Adrenaline rushes during sex.
(d) Secretive nature of the relationship.

2. Who is the book's primary audience?
(a) A couple who want to rebuild their relationship after an affair.
(b) A lover who wants to beging a new relationship outside the affair.
(c) An unfaithful partner who is unsure about the status of their marriage.
(d) A hurt partner who wants to get even with the unfaithful partner.

3. Which term does the book use to describe the partner who is involved in the affair?
(a) Lover.
(b) Betrayed.
(c) Victim.
(d) Unfaithful.

4. The negative reactions of friends and family can enhance which feeling for the unfaithful partner?
(a) Self-disgust.
(b) Jealousy.
(c) Anger.
(d) Shame.

5. On what are relationships based?
(a) Common goals and desires.
(b) Trust and love.
(c) Respect and friendship.
(d) Family and commitment.

6. How many psychological effects on the hurt partner, which occur after the discovery of an affair, does the book address?
(a) Seven.
(b) Nine.
(c) Five.
(d) Eleven.

7. How should partners treat their unrealistic expectations of love and marriage?
(a) Decide mutually to forget them.
(b) Examine their origins.
(c) Undergo couples counseling.
(d) Critique each others' beliefs.

8. Connecting with friends and family in the wake of an affair is perceived how by the hurt partner?
(a) Instant and deep.
(b) Easy and necessary.
(c) Difficult and painful.
(d) Tenuous and slow.

9. The signs of an affair are often treated in which way by the hurt partner?
(a) They are confronted.
(b) They are accepted.
(c) They are ignored.
(d) They are explained away.

10. After a decision is made, what must the couple do next to rebuild their relationship?
(a) Rebuilding the relationship.
(b) Removing the lover from the picture.
(c) Rekindling romantic feelings.
(d) Holding a recommitment ceremony.

11. What is the second phase of post-affair healing?
(a) Working to recommit on an intimate level.
(b) Moving the unfaithful partner out of the house.
(c) Telling the children about the affair.
(d) Deciding whether to separate or stay together.

12. If the unfaithful partner feels committed to the lover, how could this affect their feelings about the affair?
(a) They may not feel guilty.
(b) They may not want to reconnect.
(c) They may be angry.
(d) They may feel distracted.

13. How do women usually react to the discovery of an affair?
(a) They attempt to keep their relationship going.
(b) They ignore the explanations of their partner.
(c) They turn to girlfriends and family for support.
(d) They try to forget about the realities of the affair.

14. When an unfaithful partner returns to find their marriage damaged, they often feel which emotion?
(a) Guilt.
(b) Sad.
(c) Hopelessness.
(d) Rejected.

15. Why does the author deliberately chose particular words and phrases to use in the book?
(a) To eliminate stereotypes about infidelity.
(b) To create a new language for the partners.
(c) To help the couple speak openly about their problems.
(d) To avoid emotionally charged labels.

Short Answer Questions

1. How do unfaithful partners typically manage their anxiety?

2. Why does an affair need to be understood?

3. Which idea is unlikely about the couple working through an extramarital affair?

4. How is the religious faith of hurt partners affected after an affair?

5. The introduction addresses which of these questions?

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