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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. The stage of disenchantment in a relationship can be described with which term?
(a) Sudden.
(b) Unexpected.
(c) Unhealthy.
(d) Normal.

2. For trust to be regained in a relationship, what must happen?
(a) The hurt partner must have an affair as well.
(b) The lover must be involved in couples counseling.
(c) The affair must be analyzed from all angles.
(d) The root causes of the affair must be eliminated.

3. An unfaithful partner may experience which emotion after leaving the lover?
(a) Anger.
(b) Resentment.
(c) Guilt.
(d) Despair.

4. Basic goals and new boundaries should be decided on by whom?
(a) The hurt partner and the marriage counselor.
(b) The partners and the lover.
(c) The unfaithful partner and a religious leader.
(d) Both partners.

5. If a hurt partner attempts to win back the unfaithful partner, what is the psychological effect on the hurt partner?
(a) They are angry at the lover.
(b) They are devastated by the affair.
(c) They lose their will to try in the relationship.
(d) They lose their sense of self-respect.

6. While hurt female partners typically become depressed, how do male hurt partners typically react?
(a) They become angry.
(b) They become lonely.
(c) They become fearful.
(d) They become sad.

7. After an affair is discovered, how is the personal identity of hurt partner affected?
(a) It is lost.
(b) It is recreated.
(c) It is improved.
(d) It is stabilized.

8. Why would the hurt partner feel as if they are disposable?
(a) They cannot accurately express their emotions.
(b) They regret the time lost with their partner.
(c) They compare themselves to the lover.
(d) They lose the sense of being special.

9. After making a difficult decision between the hurt partner and the lover, the unfaithful partner may begin to doubt what about themselves?
(a) Their feelings.
(b) Their decision.
(c) Their sexual confidence.
(d) Their personal identity.

10. The feeling of romantic love can lead the unfaithful partner to take which action?
(a) Choose the lover over the hurt partner.
(b) Decide not to disclose the affair.
(c) Begin a new affair with another lover.
(d) Continue the affair after recommiting to the partner.

11. A loss of sense of purpose can lead to which outcome for the hurt partner?
(a) Withdrawing sexually.
(b) Taking the children.
(c) Wanting a divorce.
(d) Suicidal thoughts.

12. Who is the book's primary audience?
(a) An unfaithful partner who is unsure about the status of their marriage.
(b) A hurt partner who wants to get even with the unfaithful partner.
(c) A lover who wants to beging a new relationship outside the affair.
(d) A couple who want to rebuild their relationship after an affair.

13. When hurt partners engage in obsession behaviors, how is this related to the discovery of the affair?
(a) The behaviors are attempts to remember life before the relationship.
(b) The behaviors are attempts to dull pain and reduce anxiety.
(c) The behaviors are attempts to get even with the lover.
(d) The behaviors are attempts to get the attention of the unfaithful partner.

14. When an unfaithful partner returns to find their marriage damaged, they often feel which emotion?
(a) Hopelessness.
(b) Guilt.
(c) Sad.
(d) Rejected.

15. How is the religious faith of hurt partners affected after an affair?
(a) They convert to a different religion.
(b) They find solace in church.
(c) They blame God for their suffering.
(d) They reject the sacredness of marriage.

Short Answer Questions

1. The euphoria felt from the affair can be attributed to which reality?

2. Why does an affair need to be understood?

3. What is the fundamental difference between the hurt and unfaithful partners' reactions to the affair?

4. Which term does the book use to describe the partner who is involved in the affair?

5. If the hurt partner chooses to remain with the unfaithful partner even though the relationship is dysfunctional, which term described this type of love?

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