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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. The bulk of the book is dedicated to which topic?
(a) Accepting the lover as an equal.
(b) Forgiving the unfaithful partner.
(c) Understanding childhood experiences.
(d) Healing after an affair.

2. All extramarital affairs are viewed in which way by the text?
(a) Excusable.
(b) Unforgivable.
(c) Damaging.
(d) Inevitable.

3. The feeling of romantic love can lead the unfaithful partner to take which action?
(a) Choose the lover over the hurt partner.
(b) Begin a new affair with another lover.
(c) Decide not to disclose the affair.
(d) Continue the affair after recommiting to the partner.

4. How many psychological reactions, which can be experienced by the unfaithful partner after the discovery of the affair, does the book address?
(a) Twelve.
(b) Six.
(c) Ten.
(d) Eight.

5. Why does the author deliberately chose particular words and phrases to use in the book?
(a) To avoid emotionally charged labels.
(b) To create a new language for the partners.
(c) To eliminate stereotypes about infidelity.
(d) To help the couple speak openly about their problems.

6. When the affair is discovered, what is the typical reaction of the unfaithful partner?
(a) Fear and loathing.
(b) Emotional relief.
(c) Anger and jealousy.
(d) Disappointment.

7. According to Chapter 3, how should irrational or erroneous thoughts should be treated?
(a) Reconsidered.
(b) Abadoned.
(c) Ignored.
(d) Trusted.

8. What is the main purpose of the book?
(a) To guide a couple through a divorce.
(b) To help a couple survive an affair.
(c) To instruct a couple on how to stay married.
(d) To advise a couple on how to regain sexual intimacy.

9. After a decision is made, what must the couple do next to rebuild their relationship?
(a) Holding a recommitment ceremony.
(b) Rekindling romantic feelings.
(c) Rebuilding the relationship.
(d) Removing the lover from the picture.

10. The person involved in the relationship, but who is not one of the married partners, is termed which of the following?
(a) Hurt.
(b) Victimizer.
(c) Betrayer.
(d) Lover.

11. When some hurt partners discover the affair, they feel an emotional toll equal or greater to which event?
(a) Being fired from a job.
(b) Being raped.
(c) Getting into a car accident.
(d) Losing a child.

12. What is the fundamental difference between the hurt and unfaithful partners' reactions to the affair?
(a) The sense of self-respect of the hurt partner may be strengthened.
(b) The sense of self of the unfaithful partner may have benefited.
(c) The personal identity of the hurt partner may be unaffected.
(d) The relgious beliefs of the unfaithful partner may be devastated.

13. Using mental time projection will help the partners accomplish which task?
(a) Focus on the rebuilding process.
(b) Forgive the unfaithful partner.
(c) Let go of past infidelities.
(d) Rekindle their sexual intimacy.

14. Which term does the book use to describe the partner who is involved in the affair?
(a) Victim.
(b) Unfaithful.
(c) Betrayed.
(d) Lover.

15. The signs of an affair are often treated in which way by the hurt partner?
(a) They are ignored.
(b) They are confronted.
(c) They are explained away.
(d) They are accepted.

Short Answer Questions

1. Inadequacy in the relationship is felt by whom?

2. If a partner exhibits signs of change, how could the other partner view this change?

3. Why does an affair need to be understood?

4. How is the religious faith of hurt partners affected after an affair?

5. How do children typically respond to the unfaithful partner?

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