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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. When deciding on the future of their relationship, a couple should consider which effect on the children?
(a) Physical.
(b) Mental.
(c) Emotional.
(d) Financial.

2. The negative reactions of friends and family can enhance which feeling for the unfaithful partner?
(a) Shame.
(b) Self-disgust.
(c) Jealousy.
(d) Anger.

3. If a partner exhibits signs of change, how could the other partner view this change?
(a) As temporary and only for show.
(b) As heartfelt and lasting.
(c) As deserved and needed.
(d) As insincere and untrue.

4. The book presents a bulleted list of which type of expectations of love and marriage?
(a) Accepted.
(b) Dangerous.
(c) Common.
(d) Unrealistic.

5. All extramarital affairs are viewed in which way by the text?
(a) Excusable.
(b) Damaging.
(c) Unforgivable.
(d) Inevitable.

6. What is the second phase of post-affair healing?
(a) Deciding whether to separate or stay together.
(b) Working to recommit on an intimate level.
(c) Moving the unfaithful partner out of the house.
(d) Telling the children about the affair.

7. On what are relationships based?
(a) Common goals and desires.
(b) Trust and love.
(c) Family and commitment.
(d) Respect and friendship.

8. What must occur with the deeper issues felt by the unfaithful partner?
(a) They should be ignored.
(b) They can be resolved.
(c) They must be addressed.
(d) They need time to sort out.

9. Why is the personal identity of a hurt partner affected by an affair?
(a) Their identity is regulated solely by their own beliefs.
(b) Their identity and self-worth are tied to their sexuality.
(c) Their identity is defined by their partner and children.
(d) Their identity is invested in their intimate relationship.

10. How should partners treat their unrealistic expectations of love and marriage?
(a) Critique each others' beliefs.
(b) Undergo couples counseling.
(c) Examine their origins.
(d) Decide mutually to forget them.

11. Who is the book's secondary audience?
(a) A pastor counseling a couple prior to their wedding.
(b) A lover wanting to push their partner towards a marriage proposal.
(c) A child wanting to understand their parent's affair.
(d) A therapist advising a patient on sexual expectations in a marriage.

12. The euphoria felt from the affair can be attributed to which reality?
(a) Adrenaline rushes during sex.
(b) Acceptance for personal shortcomings.
(c) Chemical changes in the brain.
(d) Secretive nature of the relationship.

13. If the hurt partner chooses to remain with the unfaithful partner even though the relationship is dysfunctional, which term described this type of love?
(a) Unbelievable.
(b) Unrequited.
(c) Unjustified.
(d) Unforgiveable.

14. Basic goals and new boundaries should be decided on by whom?
(a) Both partners.
(b) The unfaithful partner and a religious leader.
(c) The partners and the lover.
(d) The hurt partner and the marriage counselor.

15. A person contemplating an extramarital affair will most likely view this book in which way?
(a) Insulting and wrong.
(b) Long and not applicable.
(c) Helpful and enlightening.
(d) Judgmental and tedious.

Short Answer Questions

1. How does the unfaithful partner feel about moving forward in marriage relationship?

2. When working through an affair, the majority of the typical concerns are experienced by whom?

3. When hurt partners engage in obsession behaviors, how is this related to the discovery of the affair?

4. A loss of sense of purpose can lead to which outcome for the hurt partner?

5. The basic premise of the book assumes the readers have made which decision about their relationship?

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