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This test consists of 5 short answer questions, 10 short essay questions, and 1 (of 3) essay topics.
Short Answer Questions
1. If the expectations of love and marriage are not modified, they can lead to which type of relationship?
2. The book urges readers to take an inventory of which aspect of their lives?
3. Unrealistic expectations are often the result of which experiences?
4. The negative reactions of friends and family can enhance which feeling for the unfaithful partner?
5. Inadequacy in the relationship is felt by whom?
Short Essay Questions
1. Why is it necessary for an affair to be understood?
2. How does the book address post-affair healing?
3. What is the fundamental situation of any marriage post-affair which is addressed by Chapter 4?
4. How is the presence of violent thoughts in the hurt partner related to the discovery of the affair?
5. How does an unfaithful partner conduct an affair over a period of time, and what is their emotional reaction upon discovery?
6. Where do unrealistic expectations of love and marriage come from?
7. How is an affair characterized by the author in Chapter 3?
8. What methods do unfaithful partners use to hide from deeper emotional issues that may be tied to the affair?
9. How must the affair be analyzed in order to move forward in building trust in the relationship?
10. How is the hurt partner's sense of self affected by the discovery of an affair?
Write an essay for ONE of the following topics:
Essay Topic 1
A hurt partner can choose whether or not to forgive the unfaithful partner.
How does the process of forgiveness align with the losses experienced by the hurt partner?
Cite three examples.
Essay Topic 2
When a person refuses to change, it is often due to cognitive blocks formed by false rationalizations.
Citing three examples, how could you convince a person that the cognitive blocks, that are inhibiting the necessary change, are untrue?
Essay Topic 3
Choose a case study from the book involving a couple post-affair and a religious leader. Analyze this case study from the point of view of the religious leader.
Explain how the religious leader would advise the couple to work towards rebuilding their relationship based on the advice from the book. Make sure to include three steps the religious leader should advise the couple to take.
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