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This test consists of 5 short answer questions, 10 short essay questions, and 1 (of 3) essay topics.
Short Answer Questions
1. What is the main purpose of the book?
2. The basic premise of the book assumes the readers have made which decision about their relationship?
3. What is the second phase of post-affair healing?
4. After making a difficult decision between the hurt partner and the lover, the unfaithful partner may begin to doubt what about themselves?
5. Unrealistic expectations are often the result of which experiences?
Short Essay Questions
1. When an affair is discovered, what is the effect on the hurt partner?
2. What is the fundamental difference in reactions between the hurt and unfaithful partners to the discovery of an affair?
3. How is the hurt partner's sense of self affected by the discovery of an affair?
4. How is romantic love described?
5. Why does the author recommend using a mental time projection to envision where the relationship will be?
6. What does the author recommend the couple do after deciding to rebuild their marriage?
7. Why could an unfaithful partner feel a lack of guilt about the affair?
8. How must the affair be analyzed in order to move forward in building trust in the relationship?
9. Where do unrealistic expectations of love and marriage come from?
10. Why do family members find it difficult to support a hurt partner during their time of crisis after the discovery of an affair?
Write an essay for ONE of the following topics:
Essay Topic 1
Childhood experiences play a role in the possibility of extramarital affairs in a marriage.
What are three indicators that a person will grow up to become an unfaithful partner in a marriage?
What are three indicators that a person will grow up to become a hurt partner in a marriage?
How could these paths be altered in the future after an affair?
Essay Topic 2
A hurt partner can choose whether or not to forgive the unfaithful partner.
How does the process of forgiveness align with the losses experienced by the hurt partner?
Cite three examples.
Essay Topic 3
The intended audience of this book is couples who have chosen to work towards rebuilding their relationship. Describe three ways in which the book would change if the intended audience was unfaithful partners who chose to work on a relationship with their lover instead of the hurt partner.
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