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This test consists of 5 short answer questions, 10 short essay questions, and 1 (of 3) essay topics.
Short Answer Questions
1. The euphoria felt from the affair can be attributed to which reality?
2. When hurt partners engage in obsession behaviors, how is this related to the discovery of the affair?
3. The overall length of the introduction can be described with which term?
4. What is the second phase of post-affair healing?
5. Basic goals and new boundaries should be decided on by whom?
Short Essay Questions
1. How is unrequited love described?
2. Why could an unfaithful partner feel a lack of guilt about the affair?
3. Why is it necessary for an affair to be understood?
4. How does an unfaithful partner conduct an affair over a period of time, and what is their emotional reaction upon discovery?
5. Why do couples often feel they are incompatible?
6. What steps does the author take to minimize emotionally-charged labels associated with the affair?
7. Where do unrealistic expectations of love and marriage come from?
8. How is an affair characterized by the author in Chapter 3?
9. What is the fundamental situation of any marriage post-affair which is addressed by Chapter 4?
10. How is the presence of violent thoughts in the hurt partner related to the discovery of the affair?
Write an essay for ONE of the following topics:
Essay Topic 1
Compare and contrast the realities and assumptions surrounding unrequited and romantic love.
How are these concepts related to mature love?
Essay Topic 2
Consider the low-cost behaviors suggested by the author which can change behavior post-affair.
Compare and contrast the effectiveness of changing these behaviors to the high-cost behaviors suggested.
How could these changes positively affect a relationship after the discovery of an affair?
Essay Topic 3
When a person refuses to change, it is often due to cognitive blocks formed by false rationalizations.
Citing three examples, how could you convince a person that the cognitive blocks, that are inhibiting the necessary change, are untrue?
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