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This test consists of 5 multiple choice questions, 5 short answer questions, and 10 short essay questions.
Multiple Choice Questions
1. When hurt partners engage in obsession behaviors, how is this related to the discovery of the affair?
(a) The behaviors are attempts to remember life before the relationship.
(b) The behaviors are attempts to dull pain and reduce anxiety.
(c) The behaviors are attempts to get the attention of the unfaithful partner.
(d) The behaviors are attempts to get even with the lover.
2. A person contemplating an extramarital affair will most likely view this book in which way?
(a) Helpful and enlightening.
(b) Judgmental and tedious.
(c) Insulting and wrong.
(d) Long and not applicable.
3. Why does the author deliberately chose particular words and phrases to use in the book?
(a) To create a new language for the partners.
(b) To eliminate stereotypes about infidelity.
(c) To help the couple speak openly about their problems.
(d) To avoid emotionally charged labels.
4. Basic goals and new boundaries should be decided on by whom?
(a) The hurt partner and the marriage counselor.
(b) Both partners.
(c) The unfaithful partner and a religious leader.
(d) The partners and the lover.
5. When some hurt partners discover the affair, they feel an emotional toll equal or greater to which event?
(a) Being fired from a job.
(b) Being raped.
(c) Getting into a car accident.
(d) Losing a child.
Short Answer Questions
1. The intense attachment a hurt partner may feel towards the unfaithful partner could override which of the following?
2. The unfaithful partner may experience physical changes from romantic love that can be expected to last how long?
3. Using mental time projection will help the partners accomplish which task?
4. The author of the book can be described in which way?
5. When friends and family withdraw from the unfaithful partner, who can provide a temporary substitute?
Short Essay Questions
1. Why could an unfaithful partner feel a lack of guilt about the affair?
2. How is an affair characterized by the author in Chapter 3?
3. What does the author recommend the couple do after deciding to rebuild their marriage?
4. When an affair is discovered, what is the effect on the hurt partner?
5. How does an unfaithful partner conduct an affair over a period of time, and what is their emotional reaction upon discovery?
6. How must the affair be analyzed in order to move forward in building trust in the relationship?
7. How is the hurt partner's sense of self affected by the discovery of an affair?
8. Why do hurt partners blame God for their suffering?
9. Why does the author recommend using a mental time projection to envision where the relationship will be?
10. Why do couples often feel they are incompatible?
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