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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. The process of talking could be different for each partner based on which reality?
(a) Age.
(b) Gender.
(c) Religion.
(d) Career.

2. A hurt partner may avoid demanding change if they feel it will lead to which situation?
(a) Confrontation.
(b) Divorce.
(c) Rationalization.
(d) Abuse.

3. If a hurt partner remains committed to impossibly high standards, they most likely missed out on which childhood experience?
(a) Spending time with their parents.
(b) Letting go and having fun.
(c) Exploring new relationships.
(d) Bonding with their friends.

4. How does the book describe the process of changing behavior?
(a) Integral.
(b) Unavoidable.
(c) Uncomfortable.
(d) Necessary.

5. The majority of the blame for an affair belongs to whom?
(a) The lover.
(b) The unfaithful partner.
(c) The hurt partner.
(d) Both partners.

6. Destructive behaviors can be forgiven without which of the following?
(a) Recommitment.
(b) Acceptance.
(c) Understanding.
(d) Acknowledgment.

7. Partners may feel that it is unacceptable to take which action?
(a) Discuss the affair openly.
(b) Ask directly for love.
(c) Demand the lover is banished.
(d) Force their partner to change.

8. Intimate listening can be described as which skill?
(a) Agreeing with what your partner is saying.
(b) Understanding what your partner is experiencing.
(c) Accepting what your partner is explaining.
(d) Hearing what your partner is trying to tell you.

9. The author uses the term 'flip-flop' to describe which factor?
(a) Understanding why hurt partners decide to cheat.
(b) Redefining negative traits as positive.
(c) Viewing the damage as irreversible.
(d) Explaining the repeated return of the lover.

10. While attempting to empathize with their female partners, men often feel which emotion?
(a) Ignored.
(b) Needed.
(c) Strong.
(d) Foolish.

11. Which is an example of a behavior that may take a considerable toll on a partner?
(a) Allowing an inspection of credit card statements.
(b) Returning from work in a timely manner.
(c) Writing down detailed travel itineraries.
(d) Making daily telephone calls.

12. When trust has been destroyed, which emotion is logically prevalent?
(a) Doubt.
(b) Anger.
(c) Fear.
(d) Guilt.

13. How many blocks to change does the text address in chapter six?
(a) Eleven.
(b) Five.
(c) Seven.
(d) Nine.

14. What is the root cause of the majority of marital dysfunction?
(a) Extramarital affairs.
(b) Financial disagreements.
(c) Failure to communicate.
(d) Incompatable personalities.

15. For communication to occur in the marriage, what must happen with the lover?
(a) The hurt partner must confront the lover.
(b) The unfaithful partner must end the relationship with the lover.
(c) The hurt partner must accept the lover.
(d) The unfaithful partner mus understand their attraction to the lover.

Short Answer Questions

1. Some people refuse to acknowledge which action by their partner?

2. Forgiveness should not be offered in which way?

3. If one of their parents was unfaithful, a person will most likely exhibit which behavior?

4. Which term is used to describe the refusal of one partner to discuss the affair?

5. How should behaviors that detract from trust be addressed?

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