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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.
Multiple Choice Questions
1. Why do some partners mistakenly believe that verbal abuse must be accepted?
(a) It is deserved by the unfaithful partner.
(b) It is justified after the affair.
(c) It is how their parents treated them.
(d) It is part of their personality.
2. If one of their parents was unfaithful, a person will most likely exhibit which behavior?
(a) Seek out a partner who will commit equally.
(b) Become an unfaithful partner in their marriage.
(c) Avoid an affair at all cost.
(d) Refuse to enter a relationship.
3. How does the book describe the process of changing behavior?
4. The majority of the blame for an affair belongs to whom?
(a) Both partners.
(b) The hurt partner.
(c) The unfaithful partner.
(d) The lover.
5. When does the hurt partner mistakenly believe that the unfaithful partner must accomplish their personal change?
(a) After the affair ends.
(b) After the children know.
(c) Before the marriage is reconciled.
(d) Before the hurt partner changes.
6. Chapter 9 concludes with a document that is meant to help a couple in which way?
(a) A physical agreement to record details of each conversation.
(b) A physical agreement to disclose all details about the lover.
(c) A physical agreement to forgive and forget the affair.
(d) A physical agreement to move forward in rebuilding the relationship.
7. Children who did not express themselves growing up were often treated in which way by their parents?
(a) Told to behave.
(b) Told to be quiet.
(c) Told to sit down.
(d) Told to go to their room.
8. Why do unfaithful partners feel pressure to perform sex at a high satisfactory level with their partner?
(a) To regain sexual intimacy with the hurt partner.
(b) To avoid the hurt partner fearing the affair is continuing.
(c) To compensate for the loss of the lover.
(d) To prove the marriage is worth salvaging.
9. How many essential childhood experiences are identified by the text?
10. If a childhood experience is missing from a person's life, the person will compensate with patterned, negative behavior referred to with which term?
11. How does the book view sex tools?
(a) Healthy if acceptable to both partners.
(b) Dangerous if used only with the lover.
(c) Unnecessary if the marriage is working.
(d) Integral to maintaining the excitement in intimacy.
12. What does the first part of chapter six focus on?
(a) How to control the unfaithful partner.
(b) Reasons why a partner is untrustworthy.
(c) Methods to change behavior.
(d) Overcoming resistance to change.
13. Partners may feel that it is unacceptable to take which action?
(a) Demand the lover is banished.
(b) Discuss the affair openly.
(c) Force their partner to change.
(d) Ask directly for love.
14. A listener should not engage in which action?
(b) Remaining silent.
(d) Asking for clarification.
15. Chapter seven is divided into sections based on which two skills?
(a) Talking and listening.
(b) Communicating and understanding.
(c) Acknowledging and accepting.
(d) Forgiving and forgetting.
Short Answer Questions
1. Avoiding change results from which type of block experienced by the person?
2. A list is provided in Chapter 8 to help people understand the common areas of shame associated with which of the following?
3. Destructive behaviors can be forgiven without which of the following?
4. Listening to complaints does not equate to which behavior?
5. Women desire what type of support in communication?
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