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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.
Multiple Choice Questions
1. Why do some individuals refuse to change?
(a) They are sad.
(b) They are depressed.
(c) They are lonely.
(d) They are angry.
2. According to Chapter 6, how can trust be restored in a person?
(a) Recommitting fully to the relationship.
(b) Cutting off all communication to the lover.
(c) Addressing the root causes of the affair.
(d) Changing personal behavior to display trustworthiness.
3. Intimate listening can be described as which skill?
(a) Accepting what your partner is explaining.
(b) Hearing what your partner is trying to tell you.
(c) Agreeing with what your partner is saying.
(d) Understanding what your partner is experiencing.
4. The process of talking could be different for each partner based on which reality?
5. A partner may refuse to discuss the affair because of which false assumption?
(a) It will send the unfaithful partner back to the lover.
(b) It will not be taken seriously by the hurt partner.
(c) It will cause deeper wounds in the relationship.
(d) It will bring additional pain into the marriage.
6. Exploring and learning about the affair is achieved through which process?
(a) Intimate talk.
(b) Accepting the affair.
(c) Forgiving the unfaithful partner.
(d) Open communication.
7. Chapter seven is divided into sections based on which two skills?
(a) Communicating and understanding.
(b) Talking and listening.
(c) Forgiving and forgetting.
(d) Acknowledging and accepting.
8. When does the hurt partner mistakenly believe that the unfaithful partner must accomplish their personal change?
(a) Before the marriage is reconciled.
(b) After the children know.
(c) After the affair ends.
(d) Before the hurt partner changes.
9. Future affairs will not be likely to occur if which action is taken?
(a) The unfaithful partner changes careers.
(b) The hurt partner works to regain self-esteem.
(c) The underlying causes are examined and corrected.
(d) The reasons for the affair are discussed with the lover.
10. How should behaviors that detract from trust be addressed?
(a) They should be analyzed.
(b) They should be ignored.
(c) They should be eliminated.
(d) They should be embraced.
11. If the listener repeats the ideas back to the speaker, they are using which technique?
12. Avoiding change results from which type of block experienced by the person?
13. What could define the way a person listens?
(a) Emotional state.
(b) Role in the affair.
(c) Childhood experiences.
(d) Prior assumptions.
14. While attempting to empathize with their female partners, men often feel which emotion?
15. What does the first part of chapter six focus on?
(a) Overcoming resistance to change.
(b) Reasons why a partner is untrustworthy.
(c) Methods to change behavior.
(d) How to control the unfaithful partner.
Short Answer Questions
1. The author uses the term 'flip-flop' to describe which factor?
2. The genuine intention of an individual may be lost if the partner feels the behavior is only occurring for which reason?
3. How do most unfaithful partners describe sex with their lover?
4. A hurt partner may avoid demanding change if they feel it will lead to which situation?
5. If sexual desires change, couples may assume this will lead to which outcome?
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