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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.

Multiple Choice Questions

1. Negative feelings are not implied during forgiveness to have which outcome?
(a) Be accepted by both partners.
(b) Be justified the unfaithful partner.
(c) Be replaced by positive feelings.
(d) Be forgotten with the affair.

2. Destructive behaviors can be forgiven without which of the following?
(a) Acknowledgment.
(b) Understanding.
(c) Acceptance.
(d) Recommitment.

3. Women desire what type of support in communication?
(a) Physical.
(b) Mental.
(c) Emotional.
(d) Relational.

4. A partner may refuse to discuss the affair because of which false assumption?
(a) It will bring additional pain into the marriage.
(b) It will not be taken seriously by the hurt partner.
(c) It will send the unfaithful partner back to the lover.
(d) It will cause deeper wounds in the relationship.

5. Analyzing childhood experiences can lead to which result in a marriage?
(a) A better understanding of relationship problems.
(b) A deep-rooted fear of losing a child.
(c) A comparison to the happiness of their parents.
(d) A partner having an affair.

6. Why do some partners mistakenly believe that verbal abuse must be accepted?
(a) It is how their parents treated them.
(b) It is justified after the affair.
(c) It is deserved by the unfaithful partner.
(d) It is part of their personality.

7. What is the process of assaulting a partner with verbal abuse?
(a) Storm.
(b) Fear.
(c) Anger.
(d) Rage.

8. Behaviors that build trust are divided in the book into two categories based on which factor?
(a) Effectiveness.
(b) Ease.
(c) Cost.
(d) Productivity.

9. When does the hurt partner mistakenly believe that the unfaithful partner must accomplish their personal change?
(a) After the affair ends.
(b) Before the hurt partner changes.
(c) Before the marriage is reconciled.
(d) After the children know.

10. A list is provided in Chapter 8 to help people understand the common areas of shame associated with which of the following?
(a) Their fantasies.
(b) Their bodies.
(c) Their desires.
(d) Their expectations.

11. Which topic is often-overlooked in discussing extramarital affairs?
(a) The affair can lead to a stronger marriage.
(b) The damage done by an affair is deep.
(c) The marriage usually ends in divorce.
(d) The passion can be reignited in a marriage.

12. Forgiveness should not be offered in which way?
(a) Freely and unconditionally.
(b) Passionately and fully.
(c) Openly and honestly.
(d) Tentatively and earnestly.

13. For whom must forgiveness occur?
(a) For their parents and their partner.
(b) For their partner and themselves.
(c) For the lover and their partner.
(d) For themselves and the lover.

14. According to Chapter 6, how can trust be restored in a person?
(a) Addressing the root causes of the affair.
(b) Cutting off all communication to the lover.
(c) Recommitting fully to the relationship.
(d) Changing personal behavior to display trustworthiness.

15. If one of their parents was unfaithful, a person will most likely exhibit which behavior?
(a) Seek out a partner who will commit equally.
(b) Refuse to enter a relationship.
(c) Avoid an affair at all cost.
(d) Become an unfaithful partner in their marriage.

Short Answer Questions

1. Forgiveness involves mental development and occurs in which timeframe?

2. How is masturbation viewed by the text?

3. If a childhood experience is missing from a person's life, the person will compensate with patterned, negative behavior referred to with which term?

4. Developing realistic expectations of sex involves examining assumptions regarding which emotion?

5. A hurt partner may believe their unfaithful partner is intentionally trying to achieve which task instead of changing for good?

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