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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.
Multiple Choice Questions
1. What is the first step in post-affair healing?
(a) Discovering the identity of the lover.
(b) Managing emotions until feelings can normalize.
(c) Making an appointment to see a marriage counselor.
(d) Discussing the secret nature of the affair.
2. If an affair is not completely understood, the unfaithful partner may react in which way?
(a) They may leave the hurt partner.
(b) They may disengage from the marriage.
(c) They may not abandon their lover.
(d) They may have another affair.
3. Which term does the book use to describe the partner who is involved in the affair?
4. Why does the author deliberately chose particular words and phrases to use in the book?
(a) To help the couple speak openly about their problems.
(b) To create a new language for the partners.
(c) To avoid emotionally charged labels.
(d) To eliminate stereotypes about infidelity.
5. Both partners should listen in which way?
(a) With concentration.
(b) With love.
(c) Without reacting.
(d) Without judgment.
6. Who is the book's secondary audience?
(a) A pastor counseling a couple prior to their wedding.
(b) A lover wanting to push their partner towards a marriage proposal.
(c) A therapist advising a patient on sexual expectations in a marriage.
(d) A child wanting to understand their parent's affair.
7. A formal announcement by the partners should be made at which stage?
(a) After learning about the affair.
(b) After working on the relationship for a period of time.
(c) After recommitting to the relationship.
(d) After deciding to divorce.
8. The person involved in the relationship, but who is not one of the married partners, is termed which of the following?
9. How many psychological reactions, which can be experienced by the unfaithful partner after the discovery of the affair, does the book address?
10. All extramarital affairs are viewed in which way by the text?
11. An unfaithful partner may experience which emotion after leaving the lover?
12. After closer examination, the rationalizations used by the unfaithful partner to justify the affair often can be described in which way?
13. How do children typically respond to the unfaithful partner?
(a) With acceptance.
(b) With compassion.
(c) With fear.
(d) With anger.
14. The book urges readers to take an inventory of which aspect of their lives?
(a) Conservations had about faithfulness.
(b) Dreams and goals for the future.
(c) Personal desires and beliefs.
(d) Promises made during wedding vows.
15. After an affair, the marital relationship faces which two options?
(a) Discussion or counseling.
(b) Termination or ignorance.
(c) Dissolution or recommitment.
(d) Renogotiation or openness.
Short Answer Questions
1. How many psychological effects on the hurt partner, which occur after the discovery of an affair, does the book address?
2. How many stages is post-affair healing divided into?
3. If a hurt partner attempts to win back the unfaithful partner, what is the psychological effect on the hurt partner?
4. If the disenchantment felt in an aging relationship is mismanaged, it can lead to which result?
5. After making a difficult decision between the hurt partner and the lover, the unfaithful partner may begin to doubt what about themselves?
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