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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.
Multiple Choice Questions
1. Which idea is unlikely about the couple working through an extramarital affair?
(a) They are committed.
(b) They are incompatible.
(c) They are dysfunctional.
(d) They are stronger.
2. The feeling of romantic love can lead the unfaithful partner to take which action?
(a) Continue the affair after recommiting to the partner.
(b) Choose the lover over the hurt partner.
(c) Decide not to disclose the affair.
(d) Begin a new affair with another lover.
3. The euphoria felt from the affair can be attributed to which reality?
(a) Acceptance for personal shortcomings.
(b) Chemical changes in the brain.
(c) Secretive nature of the relationship.
(d) Adrenaline rushes during sex.
4. Basic goals and new boundaries should be decided on by whom?
(a) The hurt partner and the marriage counselor.
(b) The unfaithful partner and a religious leader.
(c) Both partners.
(d) The partners and the lover.
5. For trust to be regained in a relationship, what must happen?
(a) The root causes of the affair must be eliminated.
(b) The hurt partner must have an affair as well.
(c) The lover must be involved in couples counseling.
(d) The affair must be analyzed from all angles.
6. When friends and family withdraw from the unfaithful partner, who can provide a temporary substitute?
(a) Work colleagues.
(b) The lover.
(c) Religous leaders.
(d) Professional therapists.
7. The unfaithful partner often wants to reconnect in their marriage in order to stop feeling which emotion?
8. After considering the economic impacts of divorce, a couple may come to understand which reality about their relationship?
(a) The financial burden of the affair.
(b) The reasoning behind their financial arguments.
(c) The need to provide for their children.
(d) The rationale for remaining in the relationship.
9. On what are relationships based?
(a) Trust and love.
(b) Family and commitment.
(c) Respect and friendship.
(d) Common goals and desires.
10. Relationships can be repaired if both partners react in which way?
(a) With desire to keep their family together at all costs.
(b) With acceptance and forgiveness for the affair.
(c) With acknowledgement of the level of damage from the affair.
(d) With willingness to work at the relationship.
11. What is the fundamental difference between the hurt and unfaithful partners' reactions to the affair?
(a) The personal identity of the hurt partner may be unaffected.
(b) The sense of self of the unfaithful partner may have benefited.
(c) The relgious beliefs of the unfaithful partner may be devastated.
(d) The sense of self-respect of the hurt partner may be strengthened.
12. What is the first step in post-affair healing?
(a) Discovering the identity of the lover.
(b) Managing emotions until feelings can normalize.
(c) Discussing the secret nature of the affair.
(d) Making an appointment to see a marriage counselor.
13. When an unfaithful partner returns to find their marriage damaged, they often feel which emotion?
14. If an affair is not completely understood, the unfaithful partner may react in which way?
(a) They may disengage from the marriage.
(b) They may not abandon their lover.
(c) They may leave the hurt partner.
(d) They may have another affair.
15. Connecting with friends and family in the wake of an affair is perceived how by the hurt partner?
(a) Tenuous and slow.
(b) Easy and necessary.
(c) Difficult and painful.
(d) Instant and deep.
Short Answer Questions
1. If the expectations of love and marriage are not modified, they can lead to which type of relationship?
2. How does the unfaithful partner feel about moving forward in marriage relationship?
3. If the hurt partner chooses to remain with the unfaithful partner even though the relationship is dysfunctional, which term described this type of love?
4. How do unfaithful partners typically manage their anxiety?
5. The basic premise of the book assumes the readers have made which decision about their relationship?
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