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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.
Multiple Choice Questions
1. Connecting with friends and family in the wake of an affair is perceived how by the hurt partner?
(a) Difficult and painful.
(b) Easy and necessary.
(c) Instant and deep.
(d) Tenuous and slow.
2. How many psychological reactions, which can be experienced by the unfaithful partner after the discovery of the affair, does the book address?
3. While hurt female partners typically become depressed, how do male hurt partners typically react?
(a) They become sad.
(b) They become fearful.
(c) They become lonely.
(d) They become angry.
4. According to Chapter 3, how should irrational or erroneous thoughts should be treated?
5. After an affair, the marital relationship faces which two options?
(a) Dissolution or recommitment.
(b) Renogotiation or openness.
(c) Termination or ignorance.
(d) Discussion or counseling.
6. What is the second phase of post-affair healing?
(a) Deciding whether to separate or stay together.
(b) Telling the children about the affair.
(c) Working to recommit on an intimate level.
(d) Moving the unfaithful partner out of the house.
7. A loss of sense of purpose can lead to which outcome for the hurt partner?
(a) Suicidal thoughts.
(b) Withdrawing sexually.
(c) Wanting a divorce.
(d) Taking the children.
8. After the affair is discovered, how does the unfaithful partner typically react to the repeated lying in which they had been engaging?
(a) They enjoy the thrill of lying.
(b) They grow tired of lying.
(c) They invent new ways to lie.
(d) They teach their children how to lie.
9. Both partners should listen in which way?
(a) With love.
(b) With concentration.
(c) Without reacting.
(d) Without judgment.
10. For trust to be regained in a relationship, what must happen?
(a) The root causes of the affair must be eliminated.
(b) The affair must be analyzed from all angles.
(c) The lover must be involved in couples counseling.
(d) The hurt partner must have an affair as well.
11. Why does the author deliberately chose particular words and phrases to use in the book?
(a) To avoid emotionally charged labels.
(b) To eliminate stereotypes about infidelity.
(c) To help the couple speak openly about their problems.
(d) To create a new language for the partners.
12. As relationships grow, they move into a stage of which type of love?
13. All extramarital affairs are viewed in which way by the text?
14. Although many hurt partners feel that 'good things happen to good people,' how does the discovery of the affair affect this sentiment?
(a) They believe they did something wrong to bring on the affair.
(b) They must abandon their common, fundamental beliefs.
(c) They hold tightly to the idea that good things will come their way.
(d) They become aware their partner is not a good person.
15. The stage of disenchantment in a relationship can be described with which term?
Short Answer Questions
1. What is the main purpose of the book?
2. One partner may assume that the relationship is in which state?
3. Negative and destructive thoughts are linked to which psychological effect suffered by the hurt partner?
4. If the unfaithful partner feels committed to the lover, how could this affect their feelings about the affair?
5. The unfaithful partner may experience physical changes from romantic love that can be expected to last how long?
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