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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.
Multiple Choice Questions
1. When some hurt partners discover the affair, they feel an emotional toll equal or greater to which event?
(a) Getting into a car accident.
(b) Being fired from a job.
(c) Being raped.
(d) Losing a child.
2. What is the second phase of post-affair healing?
(a) Telling the children about the affair.
(b) Deciding whether to separate or stay together.
(c) Working to recommit on an intimate level.
(d) Moving the unfaithful partner out of the house.
3. An affair, as described by the book, may not always include which behavior?
(a) Keeping secrets.
(b) Breach of trust.
(c) Sexual intercourse.
(d) Feelings of betrayal.
4. Unrealistic expectations are often the result of which experiences?
(a) Previous relationships.
(b) Unfulfilled dreams.
5. After the affair is discovered, how does the unfaithful partner typically react to the repeated lying in which they had been engaging?
(a) They enjoy the thrill of lying.
(b) They teach their children how to lie.
(c) They invent new ways to lie.
(d) They grow tired of lying.
6. After making a difficult decision between the hurt partner and the lover, the unfaithful partner may begin to doubt what about themselves?
(a) Their sexual confidence.
(b) Their personal identity.
(c) Their decision.
(d) Their feelings.
7. How should partners treat their unrealistic expectations of love and marriage?
(a) Examine their origins.
(b) Critique each others' beliefs.
(c) Undergo couples counseling.
(d) Decide mutually to forget them.
8. How do children typically respond to the unfaithful partner?
(a) With acceptance.
(b) With compassion.
(c) With fear.
(d) With anger.
9. Which idea is unlikely about the couple working through an extramarital affair?
(a) They are stronger.
(b) They are dysfunctional.
(c) They are committed.
(d) They are incompatible.
10. The bulk of the book is dedicated to which topic?
(a) Healing after an affair.
(b) Understanding childhood experiences.
(c) Forgiving the unfaithful partner.
(d) Accepting the lover as an equal.
11. Although many hurt partners feel that 'good things happen to good people,' how does the discovery of the affair affect this sentiment?
(a) They must abandon their common, fundamental beliefs.
(b) They become aware their partner is not a good person.
(c) They hold tightly to the idea that good things will come their way.
(d) They believe they did something wrong to bring on the affair.
12. The euphoria felt from the affair can be attributed to which reality?
(a) Acceptance for personal shortcomings.
(b) Chemical changes in the brain.
(c) Adrenaline rushes during sex.
(d) Secretive nature of the relationship.
13. What is the fundamental difference between the hurt and unfaithful partners' reactions to the affair?
(a) The sense of self-respect of the hurt partner may be strengthened.
(b) The sense of self of the unfaithful partner may have benefited.
(c) The personal identity of the hurt partner may be unaffected.
(d) The relgious beliefs of the unfaithful partner may be devastated.
14. Relationships can be repaired if both partners react in which way?
(a) With desire to keep their family together at all costs.
(b) With acceptance and forgiveness for the affair.
(c) With willingness to work at the relationship.
(d) With acknowledgement of the level of damage from the affair.
15. A formal announcement by the partners should be made at which stage?
(a) After working on the relationship for a period of time.
(b) After learning about the affair.
(c) After deciding to divorce.
(d) After recommitting to the relationship.
Short Answer Questions
1. The basic premise of the book assumes the readers have made which decision about their relationship?
2. A loss of sense of purpose can lead to which outcome for the hurt partner?
3. When deciding on the future of their relationship, a couple should consider which effect on the children?
4. Women typically view an affair in which way compared with men?
5. Most relationships begin with which emotion?
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