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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.
Multiple Choice Questions
1. When deciding on the future of their relationship, a couple should consider which effect on the children?
2. The bulk of the book is dedicated to which topic?
(a) Healing after an affair.
(b) Understanding childhood experiences.
(c) Forgiving the unfaithful partner.
(d) Accepting the lover as an equal.
3. As relationships grow, they move into a stage of which type of love?
4. Why does the author deliberately chose particular words and phrases to use in the book?
(a) To avoid emotionally charged labels.
(b) To help the couple speak openly about their problems.
(c) To create a new language for the partners.
(d) To eliminate stereotypes about infidelity.
5. Both partners should listen in which way?
(a) With concentration.
(b) Without reacting.
(c) With love.
(d) Without judgment.
6. After an affair is discovered, how is the personal identity of hurt partner affected?
(a) It is recreated.
(b) It is improved.
(c) It is stabilized.
(d) It is lost.
7. For trust to be regained in a relationship, what must happen?
(a) The lover must be involved in couples counseling.
(b) The root causes of the affair must be eliminated.
(c) The affair must be analyzed from all angles.
(d) The hurt partner must have an affair as well.
8. Inadequacy in the relationship is felt by whom?
(a) Male hurt partners.
(b) Both male and female hurt partners.
(c) Neither of the hurt partners.
(d) Female hurt partners.
9. What must occur with the deeper issues felt by the unfaithful partner?
(a) They should be ignored.
(b) They can be resolved.
(c) They need time to sort out.
(d) They must be addressed.
10. Connecting with friends and family in the wake of an affair is perceived how by the hurt partner?
(a) Difficult and painful.
(b) Tenuous and slow.
(c) Instant and deep.
(d) Easy and necessary.
11. If a couple does not adequately communicate their desires and needs, they may begin to view each other in which way?
12. What is the second phase of post-affair healing?
(a) Moving the unfaithful partner out of the house.
(b) Telling the children about the affair.
(c) Deciding whether to separate or stay together.
(d) Working to recommit on an intimate level.
13. If the disenchantment felt in an aging relationship is mismanaged, it can lead to which result?
(a) Temporary separation.
(b) Jealousy and anger.
(c) An extramarital affair.
(d) Bitterness and resentment.
14. Men distract themselves with external events when dealing with an unfaithful partner while women react in which way?
(a) Plan a retreat to discuss the affair.
(b) Confront the lover.
(c) Obsess over the relationship.
(d) Disengage from the marriage.
15. What is the first step in post-affair healing?
(a) Discovering the identity of the lover.
(b) Discussing the secret nature of the affair.
(c) Managing emotions until feelings can normalize.
(d) Making an appointment to see a marriage counselor.
Short Answer Questions
1. The introduction addresses which of these questions?
2. The book urges readers to take an inventory of which aspect of their lives?
3. When friends and family withdraw from the unfaithful partner, who can provide a temporary substitute?
4. After a decision is made, what must the couple do next to rebuild their relationship?
5. What is the fundamental difference between the hurt and unfaithful partners' reactions to the affair?
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