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This test consists of 15 multiple choice questions and 5 short answer questions.
Multiple Choice Questions
1. What must occur with the deeper issues felt by the unfaithful partner?
(a) They need time to sort out.
(b) They should be ignored.
(c) They must be addressed.
(d) They can be resolved.
2. The bulk of the book is dedicated to which topic?
(a) Forgiving the unfaithful partner.
(b) Healing after an affair.
(c) Accepting the lover as an equal.
(d) Understanding childhood experiences.
3. The book urges readers to take an inventory of which aspect of their lives?
(a) Personal desires and beliefs.
(b) Dreams and goals for the future.
(c) Conservations had about faithfulness.
(d) Promises made during wedding vows.
4. The negative reactions of friends and family can enhance which feeling for the unfaithful partner?
5. How do children typically respond to the unfaithful partner?
(a) With compassion.
(b) With acceptance.
(c) With anger.
(d) With fear.
6. What is the second phase of post-affair healing?
(a) Working to recommit on an intimate level.
(b) Deciding whether to separate or stay together.
(c) Telling the children about the affair.
(d) Moving the unfaithful partner out of the house.
7. For trust to be regained in a relationship, what must happen?
(a) The hurt partner must have an affair as well.
(b) The lover must be involved in couples counseling.
(c) The affair must be analyzed from all angles.
(d) The root causes of the affair must be eliminated.
8. Most relationships begin with which emotion?
(a) Uncontrollable desire.
(b) Passionate lust.
(c) Deep friendship.
(d) Romantic love.
9. The unfaithful partner may experience physical changes from romantic love that can be expected to last how long?
(a) A short time.
(b) When they're with their lover.
(c) Throughout the affair.
(d) The rest of their life.
10. On what are relationships based?
(a) Trust and love.
(b) Respect and friendship.
(c) Common goals and desires.
(d) Family and commitment.
11. Warning signs that the unfaithful partner is likely to pursue future affairs include which behavior?
(a) An inability to emphathize with the hurt partner.
(b) A tendency to distance themselves from the children.
(c) A lack of communication about their whereabouts.
(d) A pattern of staying late after work.
12. After an affair is discovered, how is the personal identity of hurt partner affected?
(a) It is stabilized.
(b) It is recreated.
(c) It is lost.
(d) It is improved.
13. How many stages is post-affair healing divided into?
14. What is the first step in post-affair healing?
(a) Managing emotions until feelings can normalize.
(b) Discovering the identity of the lover.
(c) Discussing the secret nature of the affair.
(d) Making an appointment to see a marriage counselor.
15. Why does the author deliberately chose particular words and phrases to use in the book?
(a) To create a new language for the partners.
(b) To help the couple speak openly about their problems.
(c) To eliminate stereotypes about infidelity.
(d) To avoid emotionally charged labels.
Short Answer Questions
1. When friends and family withdraw from the unfaithful partner, who can provide a temporary substitute?
2. If a partner exhibits signs of change, how could the other partner view this change?
3. How many psychological effects on the hurt partner, which occur after the discovery of an affair, does the book address?
4. After making a difficult decision between the hurt partner and the lover, the unfaithful partner may begin to doubt what about themselves?
5. After closer examination, the rationalizations used by the unfaithful partner to justify the affair often can be described in which way?
This section contains 570 words
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