"Our society has a marvelous capacity for making the simplest of activities (sex, in this case) an incredibly convoluted affair. Guidelines have evolved specifying with whom you may fall in love, right down to their gender, age, race, and social background. There are also plenty of rules for the 'proper' way to make love. This has turned basic instincts into perplexing exercises and normal physical functions into moral and psychological dilemmas. By abandoning society's accepted norms and trying something a little different, one invites social censure, religious sanction, and even legal harassment." (Authors, Chapter 1, page 3.)

"We frequently keep our fantasies bottled-up within us because sharing them can be scary as hell, even with one as close as a spouse. In exposing these intimate slices of our identity we risk judgment, ridicule, and rejection. Ideally we find partners who care enough to meet our confessions with acceptance, understanding, and...