Chapter 3 Summary and Analysis

This chapter discusses how to find SM partners, or entice existing partners to join SM fantasies. First, the authors advise beginning slowly with SM and learning techniques needed prior to attempting their implementation. Next, the authors offer numerous ways to entice a lover into SM. This advice includes purchasing a magazine or movie containing bondage and then looking through such media with a loved one, expressing interest. For doms with possible submissive partners, the authors suggest gently pinning his or her hands to the wall while kissing. For the submissive, they suggest tying one's own hands to the headboard, and surprising a loved one.

For single individuals, this chapter recommends attending clubs, organizations and computer boards to find willing, trustworthy partners. Other options include professional dominatrix and newspaper advertisements. Good dominants are those with good communication that are careful, respectful, honest...