Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism | Characters & Character Analysis

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism Important People

Dominant

The dominant in the world of SM is considered any individual who takes control of another individual during a sexual encounter, or for some, outside of sexual acts. The dominant gives orders to a submissive, which is then required by his or her position to follow those orders. The ideal dominant controls his or her behaviors in an effort to control his submissive. He or she acts as both a lover and a friend, and worships his or her submissive.

The dominant is not abuse, but uses pain and discipline to enhance sexual pleasure. He or she uses research to ensure safe toys and practices to provide a safe experience for all parties involved. The ideal dominant is patient, never demanding, confident, secure and accepting of limitations. The dominant is responsible for controlling the 'scene,' or sexual scenario, and makes all plans for any bondage and all decisions regarding punishment....
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