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This test consists of 5 multiple choice questions, 5 short answer questions, and 10 short essay questions.
Multiple Choice Questions
1. What are we often unaware of that we bring with us into a marriage?
(a) Perfect love.
(b) The Oedipus complex.
(c) The unfinished business of childhood.
(d) Our parent's relationship.
2. What type of relationship reinforces our self-knowledge, widens our worldview, and supports our self-esteem?
(b) The parent-child relationship.
(c) A mentoring relationship.
3. Viorst contends that our unconscious sexual thoughts toward friends are masked as what?
(a) Flirtatious behavior.
(b) Concern, devotion, and affection.
(d) Ridicule and anger.
4. What is the first phase of mourning discussed in Chapter 16?
(a) Endless crying.
(b) Hatred of the person who left us.
(c) Renewed hope.
5. Which recent development does Viorst think is a positive new step toward good death?
(a) Increased suicides of cancer patients.
(b) Doctor assisted death.
(c) Hospital good-byes.
(d) The hospice movement.
Short Answer Questions
1. According to Chapter 12, growing up involves giving up what illusion?
2. Intimate male-female relationships are rare because of what?
3. What is the name of the son in Death of a Salesman that Viorst uses as an example of the restricting roles some parents foist on their children?
4. Who was the psychologist who said that marriage requires "a wise balancing of love and hate"?
5. According to Chapter 20, Viorst is living on what to beat her middle-aged spread?
Short Essay Questions
1. According to Freud, is it unusual to have sexual feelings toward friends? How does this impact our friendships with the opposite sex?
2. How does baggage from childhood put pressure on a marriage?
3. What does it mean if a child and mother aren't a good fit?
4. Viorst suggests two necessary losses in Chapter 14. Name one of them.
5. What can happen as a result of a mother's fear that her child's psyche is fragile? How can this affect the child?
6. Which necessary loss is discussed in Chapter 12?
7. Why does our focus shift in middle age to discovering our family's history?
8. Other than a parent, what other things impact who a child becomes?
9. What is the fundamental tension in all man-woman marriages?
10. Viorst describes a sort of "opposites attract" type marriage relationship where each party meets a neurotic need of the other party. What did she call this type of arrangement?
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