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This test consists of 5 multiple choice questions, 5 short answer questions, and 10 short essay questions.
Multiple Choice Questions
1. Which sex tends to have only superficial relationships?
(c) Men who were abused or abandoned as children.
2. According to a psychologist in Chapter 13, husbands and wives are each other's what?
(a) Best friends.
(b) Intimate enemies.
(c) Greatest lovers.
(d) Coping mechanism.
3. As our parents grow old, get sick, and die, we learn to do what in relation to imperfect connections?
(a) Work them out.
(b) Give thanks.
(c) Ignore them and continue on our own path.
(d) Stop complaining about them.
4. Parents have trouble seeing their children as what?
(a) Competent humans.
(b) Separate people.
(c) A part of themselves.
(d) Anything but perfect.
5. Who was the psychologist who said that marriage requires "a wise balancing of love and hate"?
(a) Chad Goodwin.
(b) Sigmund Freud.
(c) Israel Charny.
(d) America Ferrera.
Short Answer Questions
1. How did Cecil and Julia Saunders die?
2. What is it called when someone keeps everything just the same after someone dies?
3. In what form of internalization do we take on aspects of those we have loved?
4. Who else, besides mothers, links separation and danger?
5. Viorst quotes this book, written by Kathrin Perutz, in Chapter 13.
Short Essay Questions
1. Why does our focus shift in middle age to discovering our family's history?
2. Other than a parent, what other things impact who a child becomes?
3. What is the fundamental tension in all man-woman marriages?
4. In thinking about losses as a lifelong theme, name some of the juxtapositions that Viorst discusses in Chapter 20.
5. Viorst describes a sort of "opposites attract" type marriage relationship where each party meets a neurotic need of the other party. What did she call this type of arrangement?
6. What are a few of the difficulties of a marriage relationship mentioned in Chapter 13?
7. Which necessary loss is discussed in Chapter 12?
8. What can happen as a result of a mother's fear that her child's psyche is fragile? How can this affect the child?
9. What is described as the ultimate separation in Chapter 18?
10. Name the five stages of dying described by Elisabeth Kubler-Ross. Briefly describe each stage.
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