"Am I going to die, or am I going to live?" (Chapter 1, 3)

"Get as much help as you can when you need it." (Chapter 1, 10)

"When you are utterly frustrated or angry, express these feelings. You don't have to be nice all the time—just most of the time." (Chapter 2, 22)

"Grieve and mourn for yourself, not once or twice, but again and again." (Chapter 3, 29)

"I see mourning as a way of paying respect to life." (Chapter 3, 31)

"The most fundamental tension of opposites, I think, is the struggle—especially when you're seriously ill—between wanting to live and wishing to die." (Chapter 4, 48)

"Accept the past as past, without denying it or discarding it. Reminisce about it, but don't live in it. Learn from it, but don't punish yourself about it or continually regret it. Don't get stuck in it." (Chapter 5, 53)

"Take in as much joy as you...