Why did the author have ambivalent feelings about learning English? What does this detail say about the challenges of assimilation?

Readers should recall that Hernández felt conflicted about learning English because her family spoke Spanish at home. Speaking a different language, the author felt a distance growing between them. She was assimilating into white, American society while her family seemed crystallized in the countries and cultures they had left behind to come to the U.S. She felt pulled in two different directions. This is a challenge faced by many people who are the children of immigrants. It was not until she attended college and began reading books by other Latinx authors that she came to truly appreciate her heritage.

What is the significance of the quote Hernández recalls from an Arab American writer in "Before Love, Memory": "You betray your parents if you don't become like them...and you betray them if you do" (13)? How does this quote apply to Hernández's life?