3. To which of the following activities does Mary compare the process of composing an identity?
(a) Folding origami.
(b) Learning to iron.
(c) Washing windows.
(d) Baking a pastry.

4. Which of the following statements best describes the five women profiled in this book?
(a) All of the answers are true.
(b) They are all idealists.
(c) They are went through periods of disillusionment.
(d) They are all fighters.

5. To what does Mary compare the "syncopated rhythms" of caretaking?
(a) Playing the drums.
(b) Tapping one's foot.
(c) Love making.
(d) Heartbeats.

6. What does Mary compare to "an obese bully"?
(a) Her mother-in-law.
(b) An unripe avocado.
(c) An oven.
(d) The Sunday paper.

7. What language is "The Ode of Imru'u I-Qays" written in?
(a) Spanish.
(b) Arabic.
(c) French.
(d) Latin.

8. In what situation does Mary describe men act as caregivers?
(a) In marriage.
(b) All of the above.
(c) In war.
(d) In fatherhood.

9. According to Mary, what should be the primary concern of any care giver?
(a) Creating an environment of warmth and emotional strength.
(b) Creating an environment of stability and wisdom.
(c) Creating an environment of safety and love.
(d) Creating an environment for growth and learning.

10. In what decade did family shelters first start to pop up in Boston?
(a) 1980s.
(b) 1960s.
(c) 1970s.
(d) 1950s.

11. Why was Mary jealous of her colleagues when she was living in Amherst?
(a) Because they could relax at home after work.
(b) Because they all love their jobs.
(c) Because they all have happy marriages.
(d) Because they are all able to have children.

12. What does it mean to be a "conserver"?
(a) To strive for perfection.
(b) To recycle past knowledge.
(c) To change identity.
(d) To embrace change in relationships.

13. Which woman struggles with sibling rivalry, and dividing her attention among her children?
(a) Ellen.
(b) Joan.
(c) Alice.
(d) Mary.

14. Which woman does Mary claim learned to "compose the disparate elements of her life in new and less rigid ways".
(a) Alice.
(b) Ellen.
(c) Johnnetta.
(d) Joan.

15. Which of the women in the book regularly starts their evening meals with an Armenian prayer?
(a) Alice.
(b) Ellen.
(c) Mary.
(d) Joan.