Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1751 eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 132 pages of information about Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1751.

Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1751 eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 132 pages of information about Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1751.
those people, and to see their inside; In order to judge of men, one must be intimately connected; thus you see them without, a veil, and with their mere every-day merit.  A happy expression!  It was for this reason that I have so often advised you to establish and domesticate yourself, wherever you can, in good houses of people above you, that you may see their every-day character, manners, habits, etc.  One must see people undressed to judge truly of their shape; when they are dressed to go abroad, their clothes are contrived to conceal, or at least palliate the defects of it:  as full-bottomed wigs were contrived for the Duke of Burgundy, to conceal his hump back.  Happy those who have no faults to disguise, nor weaknesses to conceal! there are few, if any such; but unhappy those who know little enough of the world to judge by outward appearances.  Courts are the best keys to characters; there every passion is busy, every art exerted, every character analyzed; jealousy, ever watchful, not only discovers, but exposes, the mysteries of the trade, so that even bystanders ’y apprennent a deviner’.  There too the great art of pleasing is practiced, taught, and learned with all its graces and delicacies.  It is the first thing needful there:  It is the absolutely necessary harbinger of merit and talents, let them be ever so great.  There is no advancing a step without it.  Let misanthropes and would-be philosophers declaim as much as they please against the vices, the simulation, and dissimulation of courts; those invectives are always the result of ignorance, ill-humor, or envy.  Let them show me a cottage, where there are not the same vices of which they accuse courts; with this difference only, that in a cottage they appear in their native deformity, and that in courts, manners and good-breeding make them less shocking, and blunt their edge.  No, be convinced that the good-breeding, the ’tournure, la douceur dans les manieres’, which alone are to be acquired at courts, are not the showish trifles only which some people call or think them; they are a solid good; they prevent a great deal of real mischief; they create, adorn, and strengthen friendships; they keep hatred within bounds; they promote good-humor and good-will in families, where the want of good-breeding and gentleness of manners is commonly the original cause of discord.  Get then, before it is too late, a habit of these ‘mitiores virtutes’:  practice them upon every, the least occasion, that they may be easy and familiar to you upon the greatest; for they lose a great degree of their merit if they seem labored, and only called in upon extraordinary occasions.  I tell you truly, this is now the only doubtful part of your character with me; and it is for that reason that I dwell upon it so much, and inculcate it so often.  I shall soon see whether this doubt of mine is founded; or rather I hope I shall soon see that it is not.

This moment I receive your letter of the 9th N. S. I am sorry to find that you have had, though ever so slight a return of your Carniolan disorder; and I hope your conclusion will prove a true one, and that this will be the last.  I will send the mohairs by the first opportunity.  As for the pictures, I am already so full, that I am resolved not to buy one more, unless by great accident I should meet with something surprisingly good, and as surprisingly cheap.

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