The Book of Good Manners; a Guide to Polite Usage for All Social Functions eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 295 pages of information about The Book of Good Manners; a Guide to Polite Usage for All Social Functions.

The Book of Good Manners; a Guide to Polite Usage for All Social Functions eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 295 pages of information about The Book of Good Manners; a Guide to Polite Usage for All Social Functions.

Baronet-how addressed. An official letter begins: 
       Sir, and ends:  I have the honor to remain,
       sir, your obedient servant.

       A social letter begins:  Dear Sir John Wilson,
       or Dear Sir John, and ends:  Believe me,
       dear Sir John, faithfully yours.

       The address on the envelope is:  To Sir
       John Wilson, Bart.

  Wife of, See wife of baronet.

Best man.  The best man is usually a bachelor, but
       may be a married man or a widower, and is
       selected by the groom.  He fills an important
       position, requiring tact, administrative
       ability, and capacity to handle details.  He
       acts as the groom’s representative, confidential
       advisor, and business advisor.

After his selection he should send a gift to the bride, and may, if he wish, send it to the groom-a custom not yet clearly established, and one not to be either encouraged or followed with safety.
On the morning of the wedding-day he should have received both the ring and fee from the groom, and should personally see to the church and other details.

       He breakfasts with the groom, and together
       they drive to the church.

  Calls.  He should call on the bride’s mother
       within two weeks after the ceremony, and
       also on the married couple upon their return
       from their wedding trip.

  Church.  He accompanies the groom into the
       chancel, and stands by his side till the bride
       appears, when he receives the groom’s hat
       and gloves, and stands a little way behind
       him.  When the clergyman bids the bride
       and groom join hands, he gives the ring to
       to the groom.

At the conclusion of the ceremony, he gives the wedding fee to the clergyman, and hastily leaves the church to summon the groom’s carriage and to return him his hat.  He signs the register, if a witness is needed.
It is a better arrangement to have the groom and the best man enter the church without their hats, and have the latter sent from the vestry to the church door, so that the groom may receive his when he leaves the church.

       Especially is this a good arrangement if
       the best man has to walk with the maid of
       honor down the aisle.

After this, he hastens in his own carriage to the bride’s home, to assist in meeting and introducing the guests at the reception or breakfast.

Dress.  If the bride presents the best man with
the boutonniere, he should go to her house
on the wedding-day to have her put it in the
lapel of his coat.

He should dress as nearly as possible like the groom-wearing afternoon dress at an afternoon wedding, and at an evening wedding evening dress.

         See also groom-dress.

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