The Book of Good Manners; a Guide to Polite Usage for All Social Functions eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 295 pages of information about The Book of Good Manners; a Guide to Polite Usage for All Social Functions.

The Book of Good Manners; a Guide to Polite Usage for All Social Functions eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 295 pages of information about The Book of Good Manners; a Guide to Polite Usage for All Social Functions.

Ushers.  A sufficient number of ushers should be
       provided for to allow of two for each aisle. 
       A good plan is to have one selected as the
       master of ceremonies, and for him to go to
       the church on the wedding-day in ample
       time to personally see that all the details
       have been carried out.  They should be
       present at all rehearsals.

       The ushers are usually presented by the
       groom with some small trinket, such as a
       pin, as a souvenir of the occasion.

  Calls.  The ushers should call upon the married
       couple as soon as the latter have returned
       from their wedding trip.

  Church.  The ushers should arrive at the
       church before the guests.

Each usher should have a list of all the intended guests for whom special places are set aside, and should check off the names of the guests as they arrive.  He should know the various guests and where to place them; but if he does not know them personally, he should consult his list.
The upper ends of the middle aisles of both sides are usually reserved for invited guests, and are distinguished from the rest of the church by having a white ribbon or a string of flowers stretched across the aisle.  The immediate family and special guests occupy the front seats, the family and the guests of the bride taking the left side and those of the groom the right side of the aisle.  Other guests should be given the best seats, according to their priority in arriving.

       It is in bad taste for an usher to reserve
       seats for his own friends as against the
       first-comers.

       In seating guests, the usher should give
       his left arm to a woman and escort her to
       her seat while her escort follows.

Before the arrival of the bridal party the ushers take the ribbons at either end, and, walking the length of the aisle, close it against intrusion.  Upon the arrival of the bride they form in pairs in the vestibule and lead the procession, followed by the bridesmaids, also in pairs.  When they approach the altar they separate, one-half to the right and one-half to the left.  The bridesmaids do likewise, and stand in front of the ushers.
At the conclusion of the ceremony they follow last in the procession to the vestibule, where, after giving their best wishes to the bride and congratulations to the groom, they hasten as soon as possible to the bride’s home to assist in introducing and meeting the guests at the reception or breakfast.

 Dress.  At a morning or afternoon wedding they
       wear black frock coats.

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