For instance, suppose you invited anybody to dine or sup with you, you ought to recollect if you had observed that they had any favorite dish, and take care to provide it for them; and when it came you should say, You seemed to me, at such and such A place, to give this dish A preference, and therefore I ordered it; this is the wine that I observed you liked, and therefore I procured some.  The more trifling these things are, the more they prove your attention for the person, and are consequently the more engaging.  Consult your own breast, and recollect how these little attentions, when shown you by others, flatter that degree of self-love and vanity from which no man living is free.  Reflect how they incline and attract you to that person, and how you are propitiated afterward to all which that person says or does.  The same causes will have the same effects in your favor.  Women, in a great degree, establish or destroy every man’s reputation of good-breeding; you must, therefore, in a manner, overwhelm them with these attentions:  they are used to them, they expect them, and, to do them justice, they commonly requite them.  You must be sedulous, and rather over officious than under, in procuring them their coaches, their chairs, their conveniences in public places:  not see what you should not see; and rather assist, where you cannot help seeing.  Opportunities of showing these attentions present themselves perpetually; but if they do not, make them.  As Ovid advises his lover, when he sits in the Circus near his mistress, to wipe the dust off her neck, even if there be none:  ’Si nullus, tamen excute nullum’.  Your conversation with women should always be respectful; but, at the same time, enjoue, and always addressed to their vanity.  Everything you say or do should convince them of the regard you have (whether you have it or not) for their beauty, their wit, or their merit.  Men have possibly as much vanity as women, though of another kind; and both art and good-breeding require, that, instead of mortifying, you should please and flatter it, by words and looks of approbation.  Suppose (which is by no means improbable) that, at your return to England, I should place you near the person of some one of the royal family; in that situation, good-breeding, engaging address, adorned with all the graces that dwell at courts, would very probably make you a favorite, and, from a favorite, a minister; but all the knowledge and learning in the world, without them, never would.  The penetration of princes seldom goes deeper than the surface.