Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1749 eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 167 pages of information about Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1749.

Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1749 eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 167 pages of information about Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1749.
(what he certainly was) the greatest statesman in Europe; and affairs stood still while he was concerting the criticism upon the Cid.  Could one think this possible, if one did not know it to be true?  Though men are all of one composition, the several ingredients are so differently proportioned in each individual, that no two are exactly alike; and no one at all times like himself.  The ablest man will sometimes do weak things; the proudest man, mean things; the honestest man, ill things; and the wickedest man, good ones.  Study individuals then, and if you take (as you ought to do,) their outlines from their prevailing passion, suspend your last finishing strokes till you have attended to, and discovered the operations of their inferior passions, appetites, and humors.  A man’s general character may be that of the honestest man of the world:  do not dispute it; you might be thought envious or ill-natured; but, at the same time, do not take this probity upon trust to such a degree as to put your life, fortune, or reputation in his power.  This honest man may happen to be your rival in power, in interest, or in love; three passions that often put honesty to most severe trials, in which it is too often cast; but first analyze this honest man yourself; and then only you will be able to judge how far you may, or may not, with safety trust him.

Women are much more like each other than men:  they have, in truth, but two passions, vanity and love; these are their universal characteristics.  An Agrippina may sacrifice them to ambition, or a Messalina to lust; but those instances are rare; and, in general, all they say, and all they do, tends to the gratification of their vanity or their love.  He who flatters them most, pleases them best; and they are the most in love with him, who they think is the most in love with them.  No adulation is too strong for them; no assiduity too great; no simulation of passion too gross; as, on the other hand, the least word or action that can possibly be construed into a slight or contempt, is unpardonable, and never forgotten.  Men are in this respect tender too, and will sooner forgive an injury than an insult.  Some men are more captious than others; some are always wrongheaded; but every man living has such a share of vanity, as to be hurt by marks of slight and contempt.  Every man does not pretend to be a poet, a mathematician, or a statesman, and considered as such; but every man pretends to common sense, and to fill his place in the world with common decency; and, consequently, does not easily forgive those negligences, inattentions and slights which seem to call in question, or utterly deny him both these pretensions.

Suspect, in general, those who remarkably affect any one virtue; who raise it above all others, and who, in a manner, intimate that they possess it exclusively.  I say suspect them, for they are commonly impostors; but do not be sure that they are always so; for I have sometimes known saints really religious, blusterers really brave, reformers of manners really honest, and prudes really chaste.  Pry into the recesses of their hearts yourself, as far as you are able, and never implicitly adopt a character upon common fame; which, though generally right as to the great outlines of characters, is always wrong in some particulars.

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