The shyness of man—­meaning the “other sex” referred to in the woman’s journals—­has often been noticed in novels, and sometimes in real life.  This shyness is, however, so exceptional as to be suspicious.  The shy young man may provoke curiosity, but he does not always inspire respect.  Roughly estimated, shyness is not considered a manly quality, while it is one of the most pleasing and attractive of the feminine traits, and there is something pathetic in the expression “He is as shy as a girl;” it may appeal for sympathy and the exercise of the protective instinct in women.  Unfortunately it is a little discredited, so many of the old plays turning upon its assumption by young blades who are no better than they should be.

What would be the effect upon the masculine character and comfort if this shyness should become general, as it may in a contingency that is already on the horizon?  We refer, of course, to the suggestion, coming from various quarters, that women should propose.  The reasonableness of this suggestion may not lie on the surface; it may not be deduced from the uniform practice, beginning with the primitive men and women; it may not be inferred from the open nature of the two sexes (for the sake of argument two sexes must still be insisted on); but it is found in the advanced civilization with which we are struggling.  Why should not women propose?  Why should they be at a disadvantage in an affair which concerns the happiness of the whole life?  They have as much right to a choice as men, and to an opportunity to exercise it.  Why should they occupy a negative position, and be restricted, in making the most important part of their career, wholly to the choice implied in refusals?  In fact, marriage really concerns them more than it does men; they have to bear the chief of its burdens.  A wide and free choice for them would, then, seem to be only fair.  Undeniably a great many men are inattentive, unobserving, immersed in some absorbing pursuit, undecided, and at times bashful, and liable to fall into union with women who happen to be near them, rather than with those who are conscious that they would make them the better wives.  Men, unaided by the finer feminine instincts of choice, are so apt to be deceived.  In fact, man’s inability to “match” anything is notorious.  If he cannot be trusted in the matter of worsted-work, why should he have such distinctive liberty in the most important matter of his life?  Besides, there are many men—­and some of the best who get into a habit of not marrying at all, simply because the right woman has not presented herself at the right time.  Perhaps, if women had the open privilege of selection, many a good fellow would be rescued from miserable isolation, and perhaps also many a noble woman whom chance, or a stationary position, or the inertia of the other sex, has left to bloom alone, and waste her sweetness on relations, would be the centre of a charming home, furnishing the finest spectacle seen in this uphill world —­a woman exercising gracious hospitality, and radiating to a circle far beyond her home the influence of her civilizing personality.  For, notwithstanding all the centrifugal forces of this age, it is probable that the home will continue to be the fulcrum on which women will move the world.