“My dearest Friend: 

“...I hope soon to receive the dearest of friends, and the tenderest of husbands, with that unabated affection which has for years past, and will whilst the vital spark lasts, burn in the bosom of your affectionate

A. Adams.”

“Boston, 25 October, 1777....  This day, dearest of friends, completes thirteen years since we were solemnly united in wedlock.  Three years of this time we have been cruelly separated.  I have patiently as I could, endured it, with the belief that you were serving your country....”

“May 18, 1778....  Beneath my humble roof, blessed with the society and tenderest affection of my dear partner, I have enjoyed as much felicity and as exquisite happiness, as falls to the share of mortals...."[76]

And read these snatches from the correspondence of James and Mercy Warren.  Writing to Mercy, in 1775, the husband says:  “I long to see you.  I long to sit with you under our Vines & have none to make us afraid....  I intend to fly Home I mean as soon as Prudence, Duty & Honor will permitt.”  Again, in 1780, he writes:  “MY DEAR MERCY:  ...  When shall I hear from you?  My affection is strong, my anxieties are many about you.  You are alone....  If you are not well & happy, how can I be so?"[77] Her loving solicitude for his welfare is equally evident in her reply of December 30 1777:  “Oh! these painful absences.  Ten thousand anxieties invade my Bosom on your account & some times hold my lids waking many hours of the Cold & Lonely Night."[78]

Those heroic days tried the soul of many a wife who held the home together amidst privation and anguish, while the husband battled for the homeland.  From the trenches as well as from the congressional hall came many a letter fully as tender, if not so stately, as that written by George Washington after accepting the appointment as Commander-in-Chief of the Continental Army: 

“MY DEAREST:—...You may believe me, my dear Patsy, when I assure you, in the most solemn manner, that, so far from seeking this appointment, I have used every endeavor in my power to avoid it, not only from my unwillingness to part with you and the family, but from a consciousness of its being a trust too great for my capacity, and that I should enjoy more real happiness in one month with you at home than I have the most distant prospect of finding abroad, if my stay were to be seven times seven years....  My unhappiness will flow from the uneasiness you will feel from being left alone."[79]

Even the calm and matter-of-fact Franklin does not fail to express his affection for wife and home; for, writing to his close friend, Miss Ray, on March 4, 1755, he describes his longing in these words:  “I began to think of and wish for home, and, as I drew nearer, I found the attraction stronger and stronger.  My diligence and speed increased with my impatience.  I drove on violently, and made such long stretches that a very few days brought me to my own house, and to the arms of my good old wife and children, where I remain, thanks to God, at present well and happy."[80]