=(2) Who Should Give This Information?=

As children show varying degrees of curiosity concerning the subject at varying ages, the initial information should not be given as part of school instruction, but should come from a parent or parent-substitute.

Since parents are obviously those best suited for imparting this knowledge, why do they so frequently fail to carry out this duty—­a failure that is not restricted to any intellectual or economic group?

First, there is a sense of guilt in parents concerning sexual relations, born out of their own unfortunate initiation into a knowledge of a subject discussion of which was generally frowned upon in their young days.

Secondly, there is a real difficulty.  As the sex organs are also the channels for the elimination of waste, exaggerated modesty often hinders discussion.

Thirdly, there is often a genuine ignorance on the part of parents concerning what to say in answer to the natural questions of a child and what terms to use in reply—­terms that will be neither embarrassing to the parent nor unintelligible to the child.

Fourthly, many parents are not convinced of the necessity for any special action by them.  They feel that, as the child grows, it will assimilate this knowledge, but they do not give consideration to the source from which the knowledge may be obtained, or the manner in which it will be imparted.

=(3)The Source of Information=

There is a need for reliable sources of knowledge for the parents.  Suitable literature with a matter-of-fact approach that may yet include the spiritual factor will remove self consciousness.  An indirect approach is not helpful.  Specimen conversations between parent and child can be readily adapted for any family.

Not all available literature on this subject is of equal quality.  Several religious organizations already have publications suitable for the members of their respective denominations.  The Committee is also informed that the Federation of Parent-Teacher and Home and School Associations, in conjunction with several experts, is now in the course of publishing pamphlets suited to different age groups.

The barrier between parent and child can be lifted by meetings where talks are given and films shown.  Heads of schools, in conjunction with Parent-Teachers’ Associations could invite, on separate occasions, mothers with their daughters, fathers with their sons, or both parents together.  The special value of such gatherings would be to enable those with adolescent children to do what they regret having avoided doing in earlier years.

It will be argued that, whatever is done to help parents, there will still be a proportion likely to baulk at giving the information.  Some may even remain indifferent.  There could be no objection to some unaccompanied girls or boys attending the meetings for parents and children.  The Committee states its views on sex instruction in schools elsewhere in the report.  It is stressed here that sex instruction given in the absence of the parents may well increase the number of parents who neglect what should be a jealously guarded privilege.