It is with great reluctance that I enter upon a subject which has given me great pain, and upon which silence has become impossible if I would preserve my self-respects.  You cannot but be aware that I have just reason for saying that you have much displeased me.  You have apparently forgotten what is due to me, circumstanced as we are, thus far at least.  You cannot suppose that I can tamely see you disregard my feelings, by conduct toward other ladies from which I should naturally have the right to expect you to abstain.  I am not so vulgar a person as to be jealous.  When there is cause to infer changed feelings, or unfaithfulness to promises of constancy, jealousy is not the remedy.  What the remedy is I need not say—­we both of us have it in our hands.  I am sure you will agree with me that we must come to some understanding by which the future shall be governed.  Neither you nor I can bear a divided allegiance.  Believe me that I write more in sorrow than in anger.  You have made me very unhappy, and perhaps thoughtlessly.  But it will take much to reassure me of your unaltered regard.

    Yours truly,
    EMMA.

[Illustration:  HEALTHFUL OUTDOOR EXERCISE.]

[Illustration:  THE HUMAN FACE, LIKE A FLOWER, SPEAKS FOR ITSELF.]

* * * * *

HINTS AND HELPS ON GOOD BEHAVIOR AT ALL TIMES AND AT ALL PLACES.

1.  It takes acquaintance to found a noble esteem, but politeness prepares the way.  Indeed, as ontaigne [Transcriber’s note:  Montaigne?] says, Courtesy begets esteem at sight.  Urbanity is half of affability, and affability is a charm worth possessing.

2.  A pleasing demeanor is often the scales by which the pagan weighs the Christian.  It is not virtue, but virtue inspires it.  There are circumstances in which it takes a great and strong soul to pass under the little yoke of courtesy, but it is a passport to a greater soul standard.

3.  Matthew Arnold says, “Conduct is three-fourths of character,” and Christian benignity draws the line for conduct.  A high sense of rectitude, a lowly soul, with a pure and kind heart are elements of nobility which will work out in the life of a human being at home—­everywhere.  “Private refinement makes public gentility.”

4.  If you would conciliate the favor of men, rule your resentment.  Remember that if you permit revenge or malice to occupy your soul, you are ruined.

5.  Cultivate a happy temper; banish the blues; a cheerful saguine spirit begets cheer and hope.

6.  Be trustworthy and be trustful.

7.  Do not place a light estimate upon the arts of good reading and good expression; they will yield perpetual interest.

8.  Study to keep versed in world events as well as in local occurrences, but abhor gossip, and above all scandal.

9.  Banish a self-conscience spirit—­the source of much awkwardness—­with a constant aim to make others happy.  Remember that it is incumbent upon gentlemen and ladies alike to be neat in habits.