3.  PRESERVE THE SIGHT.—­Children should be carefully prevented from using their eyes to read or write, or in any equivalent exertion, either before breakfast, by dim daylight, or by artificial light.  Even school studies should be such that they can be dealt with by daylight.  Lessons that cannot be learned without lamp-light study are almost certainly excessive.  This precaution should ordinarily be maintained until the age of puberty is reached.

4.  BATHING.—­Bathing should be enforced according to constitutions, not by an invariable rule, except the invariable rule of keeping clean.  Not necessarily every day, nor necessarily in cold water; though those conditions are doubtless often right in case of abundant physical health and strength.

5.  WRONG HABITS.—­The habit of daily natural evacuations should be solicitously formed and maintained.  Words or figures could never express the discomforts and wretchedness which wrong habits in this particular have locked down upon innumerable women for years and even for life.

6.  DRESS.—­Dress should be warm, loose, comely, and modest rather than showy; but it should be good enough to Satisfy a child’s desires after a good appearance, if they are reasonable.  Children, indeed, should have all their reasonable desires granted as far as possible; for nothing makes them reasonable so rapidly and so surely as to treat them reasonably.

7.  TIGHT LACING.—­Great harm is often done to maidens for want of knowledge in them, or wisdom and care in their parents.  The extremes of fashions are very prone to violate not only taste, but physiology.  Such cases are tight lacing, low necked dresses, thin shoes, heavy skirts.  And yet, if the ladies only knew, the most attractive costumes are not the extremes of fashion, but those which conform to fashion enough to avoid oddity, which preserve decorum and healthfulness, whether or no; and here is the great secret of successful dress—­vary fashion so as to suit the style of the individual.

8.  COURTSHIP AND MARRIAGE.—­Last of all, parental care in the use of whatever influence can be exerted in the matter of courtship and marriage.  Maidens, as well as youths, must, after all, choose for themselves.  It is their own lives which they take in their hands as they enter the marriage state, and not their parents; and as the consequences affect them primarily it is the plainest justice that with the responsibility should be joined the right of choice.  The parental influence, then, must be indirect and advisory.  Indirect, through the whole bringing up of their daughter; for if they have trained her aright, she will be incapable of enduring a fool, still more a knave.