chair, and by far the happiest holiday I ever spent
in my life was under surroundings of discomfort and
squalor such as I never before or since experienced.
Those surroundings were certainly not in themselves
productive of happiness; but neither did they detract
from it. The pathos of the situation is that
we all desire happiness—it is merely priggish
to pretend that it is otherwise—and that
we do not know in the least how to attain it.
Some few people go straight for it and reach it; some
people find it by turning their back upon what they
most desire, and walking in the opposite direction.
I had a friend once who made up his mind that to be
happy he must make a fortune. He went through
absurd privations and endured intolerable labours;
he did make a fortune, and retired upon it at an early
age, and immediately became a thoroughly unhappy man,
having lost all power of enjoying or employing his
leisure, and finding himself hopelessly and irremediably
bored. Of course, boredom is the surest source
of unhappiness, but boredom is not the result of the
things we do or avoid doing, but some inner weariness
of spirit, which imports itself into occupation and
leisure alike, if it is there. There is no nostrum,
no receipt for taking it away. A kindly adviser
will say to a bored man, “All this discontent
comes from thinking too much about yourself; if only
you would throw yourself a little into the lives and
problems of others, it would all disappear!”
Of course it would! But it is just what the bored
man cannot do; and the advice is just as practical
as to say encouragingly to a man suffering from toothache,
“If the pain would only go away, you would soon
be well.” Ruskin was once consulted by an
anxious person, who complained that he was unhappy,
and said that he attributed it to the fact that he
was so useless. Ruskin replied with trenchant
good sense: “It is your duty to try to be
innocently happy first, and useful afterwards if you
can.”
What, then, can we do in the matter? How are
we to secure happiness? The answer is that we
cannot; that we must take it as it comes, like the
sunshine and the spring. Few of us are in a position
to alter at a moment’s notice the course of
our lives. It is more or less laid down for us
what paths we have to tread, and in whose company.
We can to a certain extent, taught by grim experience
of the habits, thoughts, tempers, passions, anticipations,
retrospects, that disturb our tranquillity, avoid
occasions of stumbling. We can undertake small
responsibilities, which we shall be ashamed to neglect;
we can, so to speak, diet our minds and hearts, avoiding
unwholesome food and debilitating excesses. To
a certain extent, I say, for the old fault has a horrid
pertinacity, and even when felled in fair fight, has
a vile trick of recovering its energies and leaping
on us from some ambush by the way, as we saunter,
blithely conscious of our victory. It may be
a discouraging and an oppressive thought, but the only
hope lies in good sense and patience. There are
no short cuts; we have to tread every inch of the
road.