truth, which, as they thought impossible to come from
the mouth of a statesman, they never failed to write
informations to their respective courts directly contrary
to the assurances he gave them: most people confounding
the ideas of sense and cunning, though there are really
no two things in nature more opposite: it is,
in part, from this false reasoning, the unjust custom
prevails of debarring our sex from the advantages of
learning, the men fancying the improvement of our understandings
would only furnish us with more art to deceive them,
which is directly contrary to the truth. Fools
are always enterprising, not seeing the difficulties
of deceit, or the ill consequences of detection.
I could give many examples of ladies whose ill conduct
has been very notorious, which has been owing to that
ignorance which has exposed them to idleness, which
is justly called the mother of mischief. There
is nothing so like the education of a woman of quality
as that of a prince: they are taught to dance,
and the exterior part of what is called good breeding,
which, if they attain, they are extraordinary creatures
in their kind, and have all the accomplishments required
by their directors. The same characters are formed
by the same lessons, which inclines me to think (if
I dare say it) that nature has not placed us in an
inferior rank to men, no more than the females of other
animals, where we see no distinction of capacity;
though, I am persuaded, if there was a commonwealth
of rational horses (as Doctor Swift has supposed),
it would be an established maxim among them, that a
mare could not be taught to pace. I could add
a great deal on this subject, but I am not now endeavouring
to remove the prejudices of mankind; my only design
is, to point out to my granddaughters the method of
being contented with that retreat, to which probably
their circumstances will oblige them, and which is
perhaps preferable to all the show of public life.
It has always been my inclination. Lady Stafford
(who knew me better than anybody else in the world,
both from her own just discernment, and my heart being
ever as open to her as myself) used to tell me, my
true vocation was a monastery; and I now find, by
experience, more sincere pleasure with my books and
garden, than all the flutter of a court could give
me.
“If you follow my advice in relation to Lady
Mary, my correspondence may be of use to her; and
I shall very willingly give her those instructions
that may be necessary in the pursuit of her studies.
Before her age I was in the most regular commerce
with my grandmother, though the difference of our
time of life was much greater, she being past forty-five
when she married my grandfather. She died at ninety-six,
retaining, to the last, the vivacity and clearness
of her understanding, which was very uncommon.
You cannot remember her, being then in your nurse’s
arms. I conclude with repeating to you, I only
recommend, but am far from commanding, which I think
I have no right to do. I tell you my sentiments,
because you desired to know them, and hope you will
receive them with some partiality, as coming from