To Own a Dragon: Reflections on Growing up Without a Father Chapter Summary & Analysis - Chapter 7, Manhood Summary

Chapter 7, Manhood Summary and Analysis

Miller's realization of his need for manhood takes shape during a Promise Keepers rally, which he describes as a large gathering of men acting manly. Miller realizes that males possess a uniquely male identity. He adopts the values of the Promise Keepers, in order to develop his own manhood.

Discouragingly, he fails at the major tenets of the movement. He resists joining a Bible study, because mostly women attended those in Miller's church. Furthermore, he failed to make friends with minorities. He remembers these points as important areas of the Promise Keepers belief system.

Yet, he continues seeking a definition for his manhood. Eventually, he finds and joins an all male Bible study. However, most of the metaphors they use for their beliefs, involving hunting and cars, make no sense to Miller. He worries he may be a "lesbian with a penis."

This lack of understanding leads him to resent...
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