Chapter 9 Summary and Analysis

Women tend to beat around the bush, when they get angry. They do not say it until they are pressed to do so. If they are unhappy, they prefer to feel hurt first. They are slow to give in to anger. It happens frequently that women experience hurt, when they should be expressing anger. As long as they are hurt, they do not take any active steps in redressing, improving or escaping from a bad situation. However, women would rather invalidate their own feelings of disgust and anger over their man's selfishness instead of confronting them.

There is a big difference between anger and hurt. Hurt is injury or damage. It is an emotional pain. Hurt indicates a significant degree of emotional involvement and highlights a need for the other person. Anger is about extreme displeasure, hostility, and indignation. Depression is...