Boundaries and your Spouse Summary and Analysis

The marital relationship causes the most difficult of boundary conflicts. Biblically, when two people marry, they become one flesh; therefore, seeing the boundaries between the two personalities becomes difficult. However, the lack of boundaries causes many failed marriages.

In a marriage, each spouse has unique abilities apart; they also have unique things they can only do together. The Bible uses the marriage relationship as a metaphor for Christ and the Church. All relationships, even one's relationship with God, however, stem from an individual choice. Boundaries that violate emotion, behavior, choice, or values are wrong.

When couples fail to respect boundaries on one another's feelings, the intimacy of the relationship suffers. Responsibility for one's own emotions, not relying on others, brings further intimacy. Strong feelings, such as anger, call for a response. The person feeling anger...