Common Boundary Myths Summary and Analysis

The authors define a myth as fiction that appears true. They begin by telling about Teresa, who feels selfish in setting boundaries towards others. A proper definition of selfishness, however, would be the fixation on one's own desires to the exclusion of the desires of others. In contrast, boundaries allow Christian to care more responsibility for others.

Boundaries require, though, that one be responsible for one's own needs. God promises to grant all of one's needs and a few of one's wants or desires. In doing so, he makes an investment in one's life. Setting proper boundaries protects that investment.

The second myth, after selfishness, states that boundaries signify disobedience. Often the truth is just the opposite. A lack of boundaries allows one to say "yes" when they honestly mean "no". Having boundaries to follow clarifies one's...