In All but My Life, the friendship between Ilse and Gerda is what keeps Gerda alive. One of the ways that Ilse saves Gerda's life is that she gives up her food on a number of occasions so that Gerda can keep up her strenth. Then, later when there were work details, Ilse would help do the work, or volunteer to do it for her. She was constantly giving things up to protect Gerda and this made a lasting impact on her. The page numbers will differ from edition to edtion.