Summary:
Explains the importance of communication in relationships. Describes how good communication builds a firm relationship and helps partners understand each other better.
The world is full of psychos and you might be with one right now. That's a situation more people encounter. There are many factors in a healthy relationship. Being with someone can be a wonderful experience, but it can change into something worse. A friend I talked to said "me and my boyfriend talk a lot and tell each other how we feel." That's one way couples can avoid getting into arguments rather than screaming at each other. To make a relationship last there must be a foundation, and that foundation is a good friendship. Couples also need to be honest, which can give couples a bond and develops trust. The elements of a healthy relationship are: being able to communicate, being honest with each other and having a good strong friendship.
People know how to use their mouths and talk, but sometimes couples don't. This can lead to one of the partners to act out their anger in a physical way rather than just sitting down and resolve them in a respectable manner. Each partner should communicate with each other rather than lashing out and acting irrational. The lack of communication causes most problems in a relationship. According to the "Project Survive" presentation a healthy way to solve problems is to sit down and talk. While talking, each partner should respect each other's feelings and remember not to pressure each other. Divakaruni says in "Silver Pavements, Golden Roofs" "I have guilty feeling that aunt and uncle don't usually eat this way, and as we sit down I glance at uncle for confirmation. But he has already started on the food. He eats quickly and with concentration, without raising his head. When he wants more he points silently, and aunt hurries to serve him." Illustrates how her aunt and uncle problem is lack of communication. Without her aunt and uncle communicating they can't solve any problems. No one wants to get into a relationship where they abuse each other physically and mentally.
Relationships start off good in the beginning because each partner is learning about each other. Later on in the relationship they might discover that their partner is different from when they first met. People forget that friendship structures a good relationship, and can't last if there is nothing to base it on. A friend of mine said, "When couples get into fights they either break up or stay together. If there is a strong friendship then it's worth it to work through the hard times and other problems." Divakaruni says in "The Bats" ""Its from him," she said in answer to the question in our eyes. "He wants us to come back. He promises it wont happen again." illustrates even though her parents are fighting their strong friendship keeps them together. From my own experience long lasting relationships come from people that were close friends that have similar personalities. The couples that break up most are couples that didn't take the time to form a good friendship and see if they really like each other. According to L.L. Bumpass in "Role of cohabitation in declining rates of marriage," it proves that 40% of couples that lived together before marriage break up. This shows that couples need to see if they are compatible first before they take their friendship to the next step.
An effective way for each partner express how they really feel is to be honest. If each partner does not tell each other the entire story, and leaves something out they cannot solve conflict properly. Being honest can also build trust in relationship overtime. A friend of mine said, "If I am in a relationship I expect them to be honest with me. If they are honest to me I feel I can trust them." It doesn't leave the other partner wondering if their significant other is hiding something from them or if something is wrong. Honesty will bring couples closer together and in time bond them together.
Relationships would be much better if people talked about their problems. If people resolved problems by talking they're wouldn't be any husbands beating their wives' or people separated from their families. People should also try to avoid bad relationships by becoming friends first and learn more about the person before they regret it in the future. People need to be careful whom they get involved with because that person can be a totally different person than you think. Honesty can help build trust in a relationship, and also help each partner understand each other better. Being in a good healthy relationship can serve you well in life and it beats being with a psycho.
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