Getting Married eBook

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The husband, then, is to be allowed to discard his wife when he is tired of her, and the wife the husband when another man strikes her fancy?  One must reply unhesitatingly in the affirmative; for if we are to deny every proposition that can be stated in offensive terms by its opponents, we shall never be able to affirm anything at all.  But the question reminds us that until the economic independence of women is achieved, we shall have to remain impaled on the other horn of the dilemma and maintain marriage as a slavery.  And here let me ask the Government of the day (1910) a question with regard to the Labor Exchanges it has very wisely established throughout the country.  What do these Exchanges do when a woman enters and states that her occupation is that of a wife and mother; that she is out of a job; and that she wants an employer?  If the Exchanges refuse to entertain her application, they are clearly excluding nearly the whole female sex from the benefit of the Act.  If not, they must become matrimonial agencies, unless, indeed, they are prepared to become something worse by putting the woman down as a housekeeper and introducing her to an employer without making marriage a condition of the hiring.


Suppose, again, a woman presents herself at the Labor Exchange, and states her trade as that of a White Slave, meaning the unmentionable trade pursued by many thousands of women in all civilized cities.  Will the Labor Exchange find employers for her?  If not, what will it do with her?  If it throws her back destitute and unhelped on the streets to starve, it might as well not exist as far as she is concerned; and the problem of unemployment remains unsolved at its most painful point.  Yet if it finds honest employment for her and for all the unemployed wives and mothers, it must find new places in the world for women; and in so doing it must achieve for them economic independence of men.  And when this is done, can we feel sure that any woman will consent to be a wife and mother (not to mention the less respectable alternative) unless her position is made as eligible as that of the women for whom the Labor Exchanges are finding independent work?  Will not many women now engaged in domestic work under circumstances which make it repugnant to them, abandon it and seek employment under other circumstances?  As unhappiness in marriage is almost the only discomfort sufficiently irksome to induce a woman to break up her home, and economic dependence the only compulsion sufficiently stringent to force her to endure such unhappiness, the solution of the problem of finding independent employment for women may cause a great number of childless unhappy marriages to break up spontaneously, whether the marriage laws are altered or not.  And here we must extend the term childless marriages to cover households in which the children have grown up and gone their own

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