Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1751 eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 132 pages of information about Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1751.

Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1751 eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 132 pages of information about Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1751.
would wish, for the sake of having him speak well of you here when he returns.  He is a good deal in fashion here, and his puffing you (to use an awkward expression) before you return here, will be of great use to you afterward.  People in general take characters, as they do most things, upon trust, rather than be at the trouble of examining them themselves; and the decisions of four or five fashionable people, in every place, are final, more particularly with regard to characters, which all can hear, and but few judge of.  Do not mention the least of this to any mortal; and take care that Lord Albemarle do not suspect that you know anything of the matter.

Lord Huntingdon and Lord Stormount are, I hear, arrived at Paris; you have, doubtless, seen them.  Lord Stormount is well spoken of here; however, in your connections, if you form any with them, show rather a preference to Lord Huntingdon, for reasons which you will easily guess.

Mr. Harte goes this week to Cornwall, to take possession of his living; he has been installed at Windsor; he will return here in about a month, when your literary correspondence with him will be regularly carried on.  Your mutual concern at parting was a good sign for both.

I have this moment received good accounts of you from Paris.  Go on ’vous etes en bon train’.  Adieu.

LETTER CXXVIII

London, January 21, O. S.. 1751

My dear friend:  In all my letters from Paris, I have the pleasure of finding, among many other good things, your docility mentioned with emphasis; this is the sure way of improving in those things, which you only want.  It is true they are little, but it is as true too that they are necessary things.  As they are mere matters of usage and mode, it is no disgrace for anybody of your age to be ignorant of them; and the most compendious way of learning them is, fairly to avow your ignorance, and to consult those who, from long usage and experience, know them best.  Good sense and good-nature suggest civility in general; but, in good-breeding there are a thousand little delicacies, which are established only by custom; and it is these little elegances of manners which distinguish a courtier and a man of fashion from the vulgar.  I am assured by different people, that your air is already much improved; and one of my correspondents makes you the true French compliment of saying, ‘F’ose vous promettre qu’il sera bientot comme un de nos autres’.  However unbecoming this speech may be in the mouth of a Frenchman, I am very glad that they think it applicable to you; for I would have you not only adopt, but rival, the best manners and usages of the place you are at, be they what they will; that is the versatility of manners which is so useful in the course of the world.  Choose your models well at Paris, and then rival them in their own way.  There are fashionable

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