Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1749 eBook

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Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1749 eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 167 pages of information about Letters to His Son on the Art of Becoming a Man of the World and a Gentleman, 1749.

I send you the inclosed letter of recommendation to Mr. Smith the King’s Consul at Venice; who can, and I daresay will, be more useful to you there than anybody.  Pray make your court, and behave your best, to Monsieur and Madame Capello, who will be of great use to you at Rome.  Adieu!  Yours tenderly.

LETTER LXVIII

London, April 19, O. S. 1749.

Dear boy:  This letter will, I believe, still find you at Venice in all the dissipation of masquerades, ridottos, operas, etc.  With all my heart; they are decent evening’s amusements, and very properly succeed that serious application to which I am sure you devote your mornings.  There are liberal and illiberal pleasures as well as liberal and illiberal arts:  There are some pleasures that degrade a gentleman as much as some trades could do.  Sottish drinking, indiscriminate gluttony, driving coaches, rustic sports, such as fox-chases, horse-races, etc., are in my opinion infinitely below the honest and industrious profession of a tailor and a shoemaker, which are said to ‘deroger’.

As you are now in a musical country, where singing, fiddling, and piping, are not only the common topics of conversation, but almost the principal objects of attention, I cannot help cautioning you against giving in to those (I will call them illiberal) pleasures (though music is commonly reckoned one of the liberal arts) to the degree that most of your countrymen do, when they travel in Italy.  If you love music, hear it; go to operas, concerts, and pay fiddlers to play to you; but I insist upon your neither piping nor fiddling yourself.  It puts a gentleman in a very frivolous, contemptible light; brings him into a great deal of bad company; and takes up a great deal of time, which might be much better employed.  Few things would mortify me more, than to see you bearing a part in a concert, with a fiddle under your chin, or a pipe in your mouth.

I have had a great deal of conversation with Comte du Perron and Comte Lascaris upon your subject:  and I will tell you, very truly, what Comte du Perron (who is, in my opinion, a very pretty man) said of you:  ’Il a de l’esprit, un savoir peu commun a son age, une grande vivacite, et quand il aura pris des manieres il sera parfait; car il faut avouer qu’il sent encore le college; mars cela viendra’.  I was very glad to hear, from one whom I think so good a judge, that you wanted nothing but ’des manieres’, which I am convinced you will now soon acquire, in the company which henceforward you are likely to keep.  But I must add, too, that if you should not acquire them, all the rest will be of little use to you.  By ‘manieres’, I do not mean bare common civility; everybody must have that who would not be kicked out of company; but I mean engaging, insinuating, shining manners; distinguished politeness, an almost irresistible address; a superior gracefulness in all you say and do. 

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