Our Deportment eBook

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The players in their turn place their ball a mallet’s length from the starting stake, and strike it with the mallet, the object being to pass it through the first one or two hoops.  The turning or upper stake must be struck with the ball before the player can pass her ball through the returning hoops, and on returning to the starting point the ball must hit the starting stake before the player is the winner.  The one who passes through all the hoops and gets her ball to the starting stake first is the winner.  We do not give the rules of the game as each croquet set is accompanied by a complete set of rules.

Where four are playing, two of whom are gentlemen, one lady and gentleman usually play as partners.  As it is the height of ill-manners to display any rudeness, no lady or gentleman will be so far forgetful as to become angry should the opposing parties be found “cheating.”

Invitations to a croquet party may be of the same form as invitations to any other party.


Where there is a sufficiently large body or stream of water to admit of it, boating is a very enjoyable recreation, which may be pursued by both ladies and gentlemen.  There is much danger in sailing, and the proper management of a sail-boat requires considerable tact and experience.  Rowing is safer, but caution should be observed in not over-loading the boat.  A gentleman should not invite ladies to ride on the water unless he is thoroughly capable of managing the boat.  Rowing is a healthful and delightful recreation, and many ladies become expert and skillful at it.  Every gentleman should have some knowledge of rowing, as it is easily acquired.  If a gentleman who is inexperienced in rowing, goes out with other gentlemen in a boat, he should refrain from any attempt to row, as he will only display his awkwardness, and render the ride uncomfortable to his companions.

In rowing with a friend, it is polite to offer him the “stroke” oar, which is the post of honor.

When two gentlemen take a party of ladies out for a row, one stands in the boat to steady it and offer assistance to the ladies in getting seated, and the other aids from the wharf.

A lady’s dress for rowing should be one which will give perfect freedom to her arm; a short skirt, stout boots, and hat with sufficient brim to protect her face from the sun.


While ladies and gentlemen never forget their good manners, and are always polite and courteous, yet at picnics they are privileged to relax many of the forms and ceremonies required by strict etiquette.  Here men and women mingle for a day of pleasure in the woods or fields, or on the water, and it is the part of all who attend to do what they can for their own and their neighbor’s enjoyment.  Hence, formal introductions and other ceremonies need not

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