The Nervous Child eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 183 pages of information about The Nervous Child.

The Nervous Child eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 183 pages of information about The Nervous Child.

So far as the nervous disorders of children are concerned, much that is written to-day upon the influence of repressed sexual experiences may be dismissed as grotesque and untrue.  The conclusions to which the psycho-analyst is habitually led, and which he puts forward with such confidence, can be convincing only to those who have replaced the study of childhood by the study of the writings of Freud and his school.  Thus it is common enough to find a mother complaining that her child of two or three years of age is bitterly jealous of the new baby who has come to share with him his mother’s love and attention.  According to the views of Freud, we are to recognise in this jealousy an exhibition of the sexual instincts of the older child, who scents a possible rival for the affections of his mother.  Even if we give to the term sexual the widest possible meaning, it is difficult for a close observer of children to detect any truth in this conclusion.  The behaviour of the older child to the newly born will be determined mainly by the attitude adopted by the grown-up persons around him and by the unconscious suggestions which his impressionable mind receives from them.  If the mother is fearful of what may happen, and refuses to leave the children alone, she will find it hard to hide from the older child her conviction that danger is to be apprehended from him.  If this suggestion acts upon his mind, and if the reputation that he is jealous of the new baby becomes attached to him, he will assuredly not fail to act up to it, and her daily conduct will appear to prove the justness of his mother’s apprehension.  Fortunately, mothers are commonly able to divest themselves of such fears as these.  The older child is brought freely to the baby to admire him, to bestow caresses on him, and to speak to him in the very tones of his elders.  In a few days his reputation is established, that he is “so fond of the baby,” and to this reputation too he faithfully conforms.  We have seen in an earlier chapter that constantly and ostentatiously to oppose a child’s will is to produce a counter-opposition which because of its persistence and vigour appears to have behind it the strongest possible concentration of mind and power of will.  Yet if we cease to oppose, the counter-opposition which appeared so formidable at once dissolves, and the difficulty is at an end.  We took as an example the child’s apparent determination to approach as near as possible to the fire, the one place in the room which our fear of accident forbids him.  The difficulty with the new baby is but another example of the same tendency.  If he does not know that the ground is forbidden, if we do not concentrate his attention on the prohibition, he will show no particular desire to approach it.  His apparent jealousy of his little brother is the result not of the rivalry of sex, but of bad management.

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