merely sensual attachment.  The question how far there are any amorous preferences among Kaffirs is an interesting one.  From the fact that they prefer their cows to their wives in moments of danger, we infer that though they might also like one girl better than another, such preference would be apt to prove rather weak; and this inference is borne out by some remarks of the German missionary Alberti which I will translate: 

“The sentiment of tender and chaste love is as unknown to the Kaffir as that respect which is founded on agreement and moral worth.  The need of mutual aid in domestic life, combined with the natural instinct for the propagation of the species, alone seem to occasion a union of young men and women which afterward gains permanence through habitual intercourse and a community of interests.”

“It is true that the young man commonly seeks to gain the favor of the girl he likes before he applies to her parents, in which case, if his suit is accepted, the supreme favor is at once granted him by the girl; but inasmuch as he does not need her good will necessarily, the parental consent being sufficient to secure possession of her, he shows little zeal, and his peace of mind is not in the least disturbed by a possible refusal.  Altogether, he is much less solicitous about gaining her predilection than about getting her for the lowest possible price.”

Alberti was evidently a thinker as well as a careful observer.  His lucid remarks gives us a deep insight into primitive conditions when love had hardly yet begun to germinate.  What a worldwide difference between this languid Kaffir wooer, hardly caring whether he gets this girl or another, and the modern lover who thinks life not worth living, unless he can gain the love of his chosen one.  In all the literature on the subject, I have been able to find only one case of stubborn preference among Kaffirs.  Neuhaus knew a young man who refused for two years to marry the girl chosen for him by his father, and finally succeeded in having his way with another girl whom he preferred.  As a matter of course, strong aversion is more frequently manifested than decided preference, especially in the case of girls who are compelled to marry old men.  Neuhaus[142] saw a Zulu girl whose hands had been nearly burned off by her tormentors; he knew of two girls who committed suicide, one just before, the other just after, an enforced marriage.  Grout (167) speaks of the “various kinds of torture resorted to by the father and friends of a girl to compel her to marry contrary to her choice.”  One girl, who had fled to his house for refuge, told him repeatedly that if delivered into the hands of her tormentors “she would be cruelly beaten as soon as they were out of sight and be subjected to every possible abuse, till she should comply with the wishes of her proprietor.”

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