Gentle Measures in the Management and Training of the Young eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 327 pages of information about Gentle Measures in the Management and Training of the Young.

Gentle Measures in the Management and Training of the Young eBook

This eBook from the Gutenberg Project consists of approximately 327 pages of information about Gentle Measures in the Management and Training of the Young.

“No,” aid William, “I can do it alone.”

So William ran on with great alacrity to help the boys clear the string, and then came back with a beaming face to his aunt, and they walked on.

William’s aunt made no further allusion to the affair until the end of the walk, and then, on entering the gate, she said, “We have had a very pleasant walk, and you have taken very good care of me.  And I am glad we helped those boys out of their trouble with the kite.”

“So am I,” said William.

Analysis of the Incident.

Now it is possible that some one may say that William was wrong in his harsh treatment of the boys, or at least in his want of consideration for their perplexity; and that his aunt, by her mode of treating the case, covered up the wrong, when it ought to have been brought distinctly to view and openly amended.  But when we come to analyze the case, we shall find that it is not at all certain that there was any thing wrong on William’s part in the transaction, so far as the state of his heart, in a moral point of view, is concerned.  All such incidents are very complicated in their nature, and in their bearings and relations.  They present many aspects which vary according to the point of view from which they are regarded.  Even grown people do not always see all the different aspects of an affair in respect to which they are called upon to act or to form an opinion, and children, perhaps, never; and in judging their conduct, we must always consider the aspect in which the action is presented to their minds.  In this case, William was thinking only of his aunt.  He wished to make her walk convenient and agreeable to her.  The boy disentangling his string on the sidewalk was to him, at that time, simply an obstacle in his aunt’s way, and he dealt with it as such, sending the boy off as an act of kindness and attention to his aunt solely.  The idea of a sentient being suffering distress which he might either increase by harshness or relieve by help was not present in his mind at all.  We may say that he ought to have thought of this.  But a youthful mind, still imperfect in its development, can not be expected to take cognizance at once of all the aspects of a transaction which tends in different directions to different results.  It is true, that he ought to have thought of the distress of the boys, if we mean that he ought to be taught or trained to think of such distress when he witnessed it; and that was exactly what his aunt was endeavoring to do.  We ourselves have learned, by long experience of life, to perceive at once the many different aspects which an affair may present, and the many different results which may flow in various directions from the same action; and we often inconsiderately blame children, simply because their minds are yet so imperfectly developed that they can not take simultaneous cognizance of more than one or two of them.  This is the true philosophy of most of what is called heedlessness in children, and for which, poor things, they receive so many harsh reprimands and so much punishment.

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