If men would only realize that the material side is what we girls care the least for.  Pray do not think, just because you have built us Colonial houses, and have our clothes made for us, and never allow butchers’ bills to annoy us, that you have done your whole duty by us.  It never occurs to most of us who have those dear American men for husbands and lovers that we ever really could become cold or hungry.  You would be very unhappy if you thought anybody belonging to you did not have all the clothes she wanted, and the best in the market.  But you think it is a huge joke when we say that we are mentally cold and hungry a great deal of the time, and that you are a storehouse, with all that we need right within your hearts and brains, only you will not give it to us.

When you want to surprise us with a present, what do you do?  You buy us a sealskin or a diamond-ring.  Is that what you think we want?  Perhaps some of you have a wife who only wants such things, and who cares for nothing else so much.  If so, give them to her.  If her higher nature is satisfied with plush, let her have it.  Smother her in sealskins, weigh her down to earth with jewels.  But the rest of us?  What are you going to give us?

LOVE-MAKING AS A FINE ART

 “If thou must love me, let it be for naught
    Except for love’s sake only.  Do not say
    ’I love her for her smile—­her look—­her way
  Of speaking gently—­for a trick of thought
  That falls in well with mine, and certes brought
    A sense of pleasant ease on such a day.’ 
    For these things, in themselves, beloved, may
  Be changed or change for thee—­and love so wrought
  May be unwrought so.  Neither love me for
    Thine own dear pity’s wiping my cheeks dry;
  A creature might forget to weep, who bore
    Thy comfort long, and lose thy love thereby. 
  But love me for love’s sake, that evermore
    Thou mayst love on through love’s eternity”

Of course, to begin with, every man honestly believes that he has made, is making, or could make a good lover.

So I admit at the outset that I am talking to the lover who not only is successful in his own estimation, but the one who has been encouraged in that belief by his own sweetheart or wife until he has every right to believe in himself.

You are about to be told the honest truth for once in your life, so much so that your wives and sweethearts will tell me behind your back that every word of it is true.  But after you have clamored for years to know “how women honestly felt on such subjects,” and when, nettled at not getting the truth from us individually, you have declared that “the best of women are naturally a little bit hypocritical,” the loveliest part of it all is that you will not believe a word of what I have said, and, in accordance with that belief, will calmly announce that I don’t know what I am talking about.