Everything you need to understand or teach Father Melancholy's Daughter by Gail Godwin.
A woman's journey to identity is the primary theme of Father Melancholy's Daughter. Margaret must ask not only "Who am I?" but at the same time, "What do I owe to others?" before she can answer "What do I owe to myself?"
Margaret's way may be harder than most, because her own mother, who struggled with the same questions, is unavailable to her.
There is a related theme of how one's art or work...